I would like opinions please on how to proceed. I have a very good friend who I have known for decades, we meet up about three times a year usually for lunch for a couple of hours and we used to go out out once or twice a year into the city and make a bit more of an evening of it. The last couple of times she has suggested an ‘out out’ get-together of which I’ve agreed she said she would let me have a couple of dates which haven’t materialised. I think it’s probably about three years ago since we made more of an event of it! A couple of lunches ago I suggested more of an ‘out out’ and she said ‘oh I like doing this, don’t you?’ to which I agreed, however she does still go out out with other people and she told me that she was going out with a friend the following Friday and even if she hadn’t have done that particular friend always posts a photo so I would’ve found out anyway. She messaged me last week so I seized the opportunity to suggest going out out and she asked me where I would fancy going and I made a couple of suggestions and also asked her where she fancied. Since then she has not replied at all although she’s been been on the particular app regularly. Should I ignore the silence and wait for her to message me? Should I post a quick reply just saying okay bad idea let’s forget that? It’s really winding me up and I’m quite impulsive so I don’t want to message something that I regret.