Want to take a break from family

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I love my family to bits but parenting teenagers is exhausting. We are due a trip to Australia to see DH family and I feel like sending him alone with the girls: 18 and 15. They are not too bad but I am finding it hard managing their ups and downs and I am also suffering from SAD and had a burnout last year (previous job which I quit)

I also started a new job and not sure I can take all that time off.

I need a break for my sanity. I feel in a fragile state; trying to keep strong for my 15 year old who is also feeling down; while I am crumbling inside sometimes,

That sounds fine if you aren’t keen to go. I often send Dh with my dc to visit his family.

Also can you simply take yourself away? I go off on holiday every year on my own. It doesn’t have to be the Maldives. 5 days in a cheap cottage by the sea, lots of coastal walking, swimming, re-charging.

Send him and the girls together and you get a break then. It sounds like a good idea to me.

Your new job sounds like the perfect excuse to make this happen.

When are you due to go to Australia? If soon then as you have SAD then Australia seems like somewhere where you should be right now. (Currently 21 degrees in Melbourne at 9pm comparing with 2 degrees in Yorkshire at 11am!)

Yes do it. You need to recoup (own oxygen mask etc) so you are better able to support your 15 year old. You will
also save your family thousands which I would invest in yourself. These are tough years. No one is looking out for us (not DHs or teenagers IME) - no one will rescue you. Have you a long term deeply invested plan in your own health?