How would you handle this?

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I probably am being unreasonable and I probably should not be thinking about this. But how many women here have had the urge or have looked through their partner or husband’s phone? I was scrolling on mine earlier and DH just snatched it out of my hand, to “have a look” at what I was scrolling, I told him that was rude and that I was using it! So as a joke to see how he liked it, I did the same to him, except the lengths he went to, to keep his phone from me has left me feeling slightly unnerved. He gripped it hard then ran away and locked himself in the bathroom, i asked him why on earth was he holding on to it so tightly and he got quite angry. Would you try to have a look again?

So he is cheating. And now you will find nothing.

Projected his guilt onto you, FAFO when you did the same so he ran and hid.

Major red flag.

Dont ignore it. Hes screaming at you; listen to him.

How long have you been married?

Wait until he’s asleep and then unlock it. You could probably hold the phone up to his face to get it to open IIf he has facial recognition. Look for archived messages in WhatsApp and locked messages/folders and hidden apps

I would start paying a lot more attention to what he is doing and where he is going. Definitely not normal behaviour.

Never looked at his phone, never felt the need. Would definitely be suspicious if my husband had behaved like yours just did, though.

I would be shocked too - and very suss.
Sorry.

My partner wouldn't give two hoots if I looked at his phone, nor me him but to be honest, neither of us are remotely interested anyway.

He doesn’t usually act like this, se know each others passcodes etc and i have never had the urge to look at his phone. Sometimes he forgets it when leaving in the morning and never usually cares (no rush to get home to get it) so this has come completely out of the blue.

Just read this to my DH and he laughed and said "he's cheating and now he's deleted any incriminating stuff off his phone..."

So what has happened or is he still locked on? Have you had a conversation?

He’s told on himself here.

I would be demanding to look at his phone now, he has just completely grassed himself up here, he locked himself in the bathroom because he shit himself and deleted everything, if you get a chance to look at it look in his iMessages and go to edit it has an option saying show recently deleted, have a look in that too and if needs be I’d also back his phone up from the last few months, you’ll get back deleted WhatsApp messages.

Yep. Red flags. He locked himself in the bathroom to delete any evidence....

Huge red flag.

My friends ex suddenly started looking through her phone… think it was guilty conscience because he was the one that was cheating.

Thank you! The discussion after hasn’t really settled my nerves in any way

I would hate someone taking my phone saying they are going to go through it. And there's no affair etc to hide.

HUGEEEEE red flag.
Demand to see his phone - if he doesn't allow you to and starts hiding his phone i would consider why. Ask him outright wht hes hiding that requires locking the bathroom