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To consider redundancy with an unemployed husband

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Anon46 · 13/01/2026 21:13

Background: I've been offered voluntary redundancy from my job working for the Government. I earn £40k with a rise every year. My payout would be in the region of £50-55k after tax. I'm currently on maternity leave. I rent privately in London (£1300pcm) and have approx £260k in my savings account.

Pros of leaving:
£50-55k is a lot of money.
I would need to get childcare if I returned to work (and my husband found a job) instead so a large chunk of my take home pay would be spent on that. Not to mention being knackered from running around doing the nursery drop offs.
I don't really enjoy the job. It's a low skilled job that I fell into about 20 years ago and it made sense to stay as it paid the bills. I was looking forward to going on maternity leave for a long time.
I only have to wait 6 months before returning to a Government job if I want to avoid repaying the redundancy compensation. It's worth noting that it's much harder to get a job nowadays and the majority of jobs tend to get filled by internal candidates.
A HUGE pro IMO: I run the risk of returning from maternity leave and realising that I either don't like what my job has become whilst I was away or childcare costs make going to work a bit pointless therefore leaving at a later date with no payout i.e. I would be better off leaving now and getting a large amount of money instead of returning to work for six months and leaving empty handed.

Cons of leaving:
I have a relatively easy job which is well paid for what I actually do and I WFH for part of the week. I could get a job elsewhere doing the same work as it's non specialised however I doubt I would earn the same. The Government tends to pay quite well for my kind of work.
I have a defined benefit pension, 33 days annual leave plus bank holidays. You get the jist. It's a pretty family friendly & flexible place to work.
I have a laid back manager who doesn't micro manage me. Although she could leave at any moment of course.
My husband is unemployed. He used to have a very well paid job but lost it several years ago. He has spent the past year applying for jobs in his field without success. He's now applying for supermarket jobs to get some money coming in. He's reliant on me financially as he's spent his savings. Ideally he would get another well paid job meaning that he wouldn't be available for childcare anymore. But I have a week to decide on redundancy and who knows how long it will take him to find a job.
Making myself unemployed means even less chance of getting a mortgage.
My aforementioned savings rule me out of claiming any benefits (my husband is also ineligible because of this too).

OP posts:
junebirthdaygirl · 14/01/2026 02:42

Keep your job and put dh in the role of childminder/ homemaker. Maybe he could get a part time job or start a small business from home.
You will be very sorry later you gave up your pension as it will be a good one. Regular income is far easier to budget as a lump sum just dwindles away so quickly.
If you moved out of London & bought a small house could you work remotely full time?
What has dh done all day every day since he became unemployed?

Summerhillsquare · 14/01/2026 07:02

somekindof · 13/01/2026 21:37

Where do you live @ActiveTiger?? I’m coming…

Outer Hebrides I imagine!

40YearOldDad · 14/01/2026 09:44

Since when did moving north fix all problems? Rent in a half-decent area in the 'north' is still looking 1k plus, my buddy just re-let his house in the midlands, average area, decent house,( ex- council) 3 bed - £1100 pcm, and he was knocking people back, he had that many enquiries.

If you've managed to save up 260k, it's safe to assume you've not been living above your means for a few years. (unless it's a big inheritance) 50k redundancy puts you on 310k - how long can you live off that before panic sets in?

berlinbaby2025 · 14/01/2026 09:53

40YearOldDad · 14/01/2026 09:44

Since when did moving north fix all problems? Rent in a half-decent area in the 'north' is still looking 1k plus, my buddy just re-let his house in the midlands, average area, decent house,( ex- council) 3 bed - £1100 pcm, and he was knocking people back, he had that many enquiries.

If you've managed to save up 260k, it's safe to assume you've not been living above your means for a few years. (unless it's a big inheritance) 50k redundancy puts you on 310k - how long can you live off that before panic sets in?

OP and her husband are in a position where they could buy a house outright in some places up north, it’s totally different from renting!

40YearOldDad · 14/01/2026 10:22

berlinbaby2025 · 14/01/2026 09:53

OP and her husband are in a position where they could buy a house outright in some places up north, it’s totally different from renting!

I know, but it's a very, very simplistic view on things, moving, potentially away from their friends, family network, Job opportunities, because it buys a house outright?

It's like saying to someone in the north who rents that they could buy outright in rural France. Just like the north, it's cheaper, and they speak a different language.

I'd also love to see these 5-bed detached houses with land, and a cottage for 250k in the north, because a quick Rightmove search suggest they just don't exist, unless you want to live in Aberdeean, (nothing wrong with that, it has some lovely places) and have the skill and or spare 100K to renovate a house. - So in essence, not a 250k house.

berlinbaby2025 · 14/01/2026 10:33

I know what you're saying @40YearOldDad and it does get wheeled out here a lot, but it's unusual for anyone to have a quarter of a million pounds in savings! There are plenty of good areas in the north where you can buy a two or three bed house.

I'm saying it's worth looking into, but not at the expense of giving up the income and taking the redundancy.

Mcdhotchoc · 14/01/2026 11:09

I would echo others about the grass not being greener.
If your dh has failed to find anything........
Keep your job, keep your savings.

InterestedDad37 · 14/01/2026 11:15

Leave, move north, live mortgage-free, look for employment outside your fileds of expertise (both of you), but which motivate and energise you 🙂

iamnotalemon · 14/01/2026 11:15

The money would be tempting but you already have decent savings. If your partner has already been out of work for a few years, it would worry me that he wouldn’t find another job. Would you be able to relax while on maternity leave without either of you working? I guess you’ll have the cushion of savings but your redundancy money will be used up pretty fast if neither of you are working.

JennyForeigner · 14/01/2026 13:01

Move 90 minutes north of London and 250k will get you a very nice little 3 bed + moving costs. Stick with the job this round, use early mat leave to apply for civil service roles in the north as an insider. Hand over childcare to your DH as and when.

My DSis works in central government and most of her colleagues are Liverpool, Leeds and Birmingham these days. You're in a great position for a lateral move.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/01/2026 13:08

What is the likelihood that if you don't take voluntary redundancy, you find out a couple of weeks after returning that they're doing compulsory redundancies instead - with only Statutory payments?

Panicmode1 · 14/01/2026 13:13

My husband took 18 months to get another job and we went through over £100k of his settlement money (SEmortgage, household bills, 2 kids in uni, 2 at home etc) so I wouldn't be giving up an income if I didn't need to...I've managed to get a public sector job after 10+ years of PT working so I could be at home, and have no intention of giving it up unless and until I absolutely have to!)

SushiForMe · 14/01/2026 13:16

Your pros are assuming that your DH finds a well paid job, which he hasn’t managed to for years, is it realistic that he will find one soon?

Other Q, will they pay you during maternity leave? If you leave, it would be unpaid, so that offsets the 50k - at least partly.

Peonies12 · 14/01/2026 13:25

not your question but that’s a ridiculous amount to have in savings. And I hope it’s not with one bank as you’re only protected to £85k per bank. Why on earth dont you own a property even jf you rent it out? I personally wouldn’t leave; civil service pensions are great and your job sounds very flexible for when you return after maternity leave

Itsmetheflamingo · 14/01/2026 14:08

Peonies12 · 14/01/2026 13:25

not your question but that’s a ridiculous amount to have in savings. And I hope it’s not with one bank as you’re only protected to £85k per bank. Why on earth dont you own a property even jf you rent it out? I personally wouldn’t leave; civil service pensions are great and your job sounds very flexible for when you return after maternity leave

If OP is on £40k and her H unemployed- her borrowing ability is very low. £260k is a great deposit but if you’re living in a £750k rental it’s out of reach.

very roughly OP could probably borrow another £150k. That’s “only” a £410k purchase.

everyone’s suggesting they move up north but obviously this isn’t something they’ve done, or plan to do.

MandemChickenShop · 14/01/2026 15:20

Everyone saying buy a house will then miss out on the income the £250k can generate invested reasonable - 20% (£50k) in the FSTE100 last year. Covers the rent and then some. A house up North might go up a bit over the years but nothing like as much

HollyHolly123 · 14/01/2026 15:26

I vote keep your job.

Chinsupmeloves · 14/01/2026 19:03

With that amount savings I would've got a mortgage years ago!

Chattanoogachoo · 14/01/2026 19:16

I work in local government and we're getting yearly invites to apply for voluntary redundancy.Not everyone is accepted but there's a definite policy of encouraging redundancy.They then employ even more people so I'm not sure what their reasoning is.
If you're entitled to maternity leave it would make sense to use it.

VecnasSkinnyLatte · 14/01/2026 19:16

Please keep your job.
Why will your DH not do childcare if he’s unemployed?

Partypants83 · 14/01/2026 19:25

Don't take the redundancy!
You got a cushy job, great benefits, wfh etc.
Doesn't sound like your husband's going to get a job any time soon.
Employment scene is VICIOUS out there!
Don't risk it!
(But buy a house with the savings)

Pessismistic · 14/01/2026 20:54

Hi op your redundancy is barely a year and half’s salary why would you risk 40k a year for that. If your working and your dh isn’t he can take care of childcare until the time comes when he can’t also if you have 260k in the bank and not using it the 55 will just sit in the bank until it’s been dwindling away then you might only get a job with 30k. I think with the savings I would have bought rather than rent as it becomes yours at the end of the day and now your wasting your money by renting so I would stay buy a house get some security use the savings then worry about your future nursery is only 3 years jobs and houses are for much longer.

Brightlittlecanary · 14/01/2026 21:15

No way I’d leave. The odds of your husband getting a well paid job are very low now, and a supermarket isn’t going to bring in much. Unless you want to blow through your savings, I’d stay.

Brightlittlecanary · 14/01/2026 21:16

Pessismistic · 14/01/2026 20:54

Hi op your redundancy is barely a year and half’s salary why would you risk 40k a year for that. If your working and your dh isn’t he can take care of childcare until the time comes when he can’t also if you have 260k in the bank and not using it the 55 will just sit in the bank until it’s been dwindling away then you might only get a job with 30k. I think with the savings I would have bought rather than rent as it becomes yours at the end of the day and now your wasting your money by renting so I would stay buy a house get some security use the savings then worry about your future nursery is only 3 years jobs and houses are for much longer.

Absolutely, what he earns in a supermarket will be less than childcare costs, he should stay at home and do child care whilst she works.

DeborahVance · 14/01/2026 22:02

You'd be mad to do this. Finding a job at the moment is really difficult, there's a real possibility that both of you will be out of work with a baby. There will be other opportunities for redundancy in the future.

Invest the money too.