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I’ve never had a smear test and I don’t want one either

958 replies

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 18:18

Controversial I guess, I’m 36.
I don’t think it’s necessary, as I’ve read about my risk factors and I don’t meet the criteria. All the men I’ve slept with (without protection) were virgins and yes I know they were for sure.
I also have no family history of any cancer.
My partner has prostate cancer in both sides of his family, his dad has it currently and he’s not even been offered a screening test for this.
I find this so frustrating and contradictory when women and men are treated so differently and if you refuse smear or breast screening you’re seen as an awful person, and those who do are morally superior.
Men aren’t coerced into invasive internal examinations.
I have an aversion to having things inserted in me internally and feel I have a right to that decision regarding my body.
There are home tests for HPV available, which I have done myself in the past - all clear.
My question is why do they persist with this archaic procedure when there are other options available?

I keep getting phone calls from my GP surgery trying to persuade me to book a test. I don’t understand why they’re always pushing it, but just totally dismiss other medical issues, which has been my experience several times.
Do they get extra commission for this or something?
There are even pop up ‘clinics’ and drop in sessions going ahead near me.

Of course I know I’ll be bombarded with replies saying I’m selfish, stupid and uneducated. I’ve even read other women saying that those who refuse should be denied any medical care!
But I have done my research and I am more than aware of the implications.

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IDrinkTeaAllTheTime · 13/01/2026 20:42

In other pointless updates.. I was going to make a chicken pie for dinner tonight, but then couldn’t be arsed, so I made a chicken curry instead. Nobody gives a fuck.

Do what you want, OP. Nobody cares about your dramatic need for attention. 🙄

daisychain01 · 13/01/2026 20:42

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 18:35

Yes if they were just letters I would ignore them but I’m getting regular phone calls directly from my GP surgery trying to coerce me into an appointment.
In contrast, my partner had never received anything like this and as I said in my OP, he is a high risk for prostate cancer.
I’m pretty sure they’ve moved away from the invasive testing for that now too - I don’t understand why they can’t do the same for smears. Oh yes, because we’re not men.

I’m pretty sure they’ve moved away from the invasive testing for that now too - I don’t understand why they can’t do the same for smears. Oh yes, because we’re not men.

now you just sound like a petulant child.

Pereniallyannoyed · 13/01/2026 20:44

Mumtobabyhavoc · 13/01/2026 20:33

I'm going out on a limb here, but I actually think posts like this are fake and designed to shake confidence in trusted, and proven, medical procedures. I believe the anti-vax movement and Covid deniers are also largely the same, ie bots, originating from adversaries of the West/western democracies.

Wouldn’t be outside the realms of possibility.

modernminimalist · 13/01/2026 20:45

I’m confused why people are berating the OP with tales of cancer death
she is testing for HPV, the same as a smear does
so effectively she is doing her own smear as they don’t test cells now
not seeing an issue with that, it’s a decent alternative

ThePure · 13/01/2026 20:45

GPs are incentivised to promote participation in cervical screening because it is an effective and cost effective screening programme that saves lives. This does not affect your right to decline which you are most welcome to continue to exercise. Just tell them that you want to opt out and you want that recorded on your records as being your decision.

There isn’t a prostate cancer screening program because the tests available are too inaccurate to be used for screening and would not be cost effective. It is not a sex discrimination issue

PinkyFlamingo · 13/01/2026 20:46

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 18:35

Yes if they were just letters I would ignore them but I’m getting regular phone calls directly from my GP surgery trying to coerce me into an appointment.
In contrast, my partner had never received anything like this and as I said in my OP, he is a high risk for prostate cancer.
I’m pretty sure they’ve moved away from the invasive testing for that now too - I don’t understand why they can’t do the same for smears. Oh yes, because we’re not men.

No because the most accurate way is to take cells straight from your cervix. Your body your choice of course but saying "are they in commission" is unpleasant. My job as a nurse is to care for my patients health, not earn commission obviously 🙄

GinaandGin · 13/01/2026 20:48

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 18:35

Yes if they were just letters I would ignore them but I’m getting regular phone calls directly from my GP surgery trying to coerce me into an appointment.
In contrast, my partner had never received anything like this and as I said in my OP, he is a high risk for prostate cancer.
I’m pretty sure they’ve moved away from the invasive testing for that now too - I don’t understand why they can’t do the same for smears. Oh yes, because we’re not men.

Tbh Australia and Canada (and some other countries) have procedures for women to self smear

SleeplessInWherever · 13/01/2026 20:48

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 19:40

I do have a diagnosis of autism if that will shut some posters up. It’s not completely relevant but it is partly as it’s some of the reason why internal exams are a real concern for me, there’s a sensory aspect to them.
But I completely stand by my original points and maybe it’s partly down to my autism as if I see something as ‘unfair’ I feel the need to call it out.

I’d imagine cancer would be a sensory nightmare.

I’ve got an autistic child. If he needs a procedure, because an actual medical professional says he does, he’s getting that procedure. He needed 7 X-rays a few months back. Screamed the place down, but he had them.

Autism is not an excuse here. Adjustments could and should be made for it, but unless you’re a medical professional- you do not know better.

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 20:49

Sounds like Australia is doing it already:

I’ve never had a smear test and I don’t want one either
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Biscuitsneeded · 13/01/2026 20:49

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 18:39

@TheHumanRepresentative

I find it difficult to reconcile the pressure placed on women to undergo invasive internal examinations when comparable screening is not routinely offered to men. It contributes to my discomfort with how women’s healthcare decisions are often treated.

I'm the first person to shout when there is systemic sexism in play, but your logic here is all backwards. "Men don't get vital, possibly life-saving screening, so I don't want any either" is kind of Darwin award territory.

It reads like you're scared, and clutching at straws for an intellectual argument for not going rather than admitting you're worried. Nobody feels 'morally superior' for going - this has nothing to do with morality, and is just common sense if you want to decrease your chances of dying needlessly. It's your choice of course, but if you really don't want to have the screening, just write to your practice and ask to be taken off the call-up lists.

Unpaidviewer · 13/01/2026 20:49

I go for mine. I have a toddler so I think its worth it. If i were to find out I had CC that could have been treated with a better outcome I would feep pretty silly.

But it is rather annoying that they only test you for HPV now whilst still doing the full smear.

Frenzi · 13/01/2026 20:49

I dont think you are selfish, stupid or uneducated - not quite sure why you need to announce that you dont want a smear test though

And working for a GP practice I can categorically say we dont get money for getting people in for smears - we push it because it is seen as important.

If your partner is at high risk for PSA I assume he is under urology who are monitoring him rather than the GP who only monitor mid risk patients.

What you do with your body is up to you but coming from someone that was caught very early with cervical cancer, I also assume that one of your hobbies is playing Russian roulette with a loaded gun!

Bookaholicwithwine · 13/01/2026 20:50

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 18:18

Controversial I guess, I’m 36.
I don’t think it’s necessary, as I’ve read about my risk factors and I don’t meet the criteria. All the men I’ve slept with (without protection) were virgins and yes I know they were for sure.
I also have no family history of any cancer.
My partner has prostate cancer in both sides of his family, his dad has it currently and he’s not even been offered a screening test for this.
I find this so frustrating and contradictory when women and men are treated so differently and if you refuse smear or breast screening you’re seen as an awful person, and those who do are morally superior.
Men aren’t coerced into invasive internal examinations.
I have an aversion to having things inserted in me internally and feel I have a right to that decision regarding my body.
There are home tests for HPV available, which I have done myself in the past - all clear.
My question is why do they persist with this archaic procedure when there are other options available?

I keep getting phone calls from my GP surgery trying to persuade me to book a test. I don’t understand why they’re always pushing it, but just totally dismiss other medical issues, which has been my experience several times.
Do they get extra commission for this or something?
There are even pop up ‘clinics’ and drop in sessions going ahead near me.

Of course I know I’ll be bombarded with replies saying I’m selfish, stupid and uneducated. I’ve even read other women saying that those who refuse should be denied any medical care!
But I have done my research and I am more than aware of the implications.

Just in reply about men , they are often coaxed into prostate exams and they are useful . But yeah I’d like a smear test to rule out cervical cancer !

LaughingCat · 13/01/2026 20:50

HAAAAAA! Controversial? This is like the eight hundredth or so thread whining about ‘not wanting a cervical smear and you can’t make me!’ that I’ve seen in the last decade and a half on here. It’s not a hot take, just basic and comes up every couple of months or so, usually as rage bait.

Home HPV kits are still slightly less accurate than the invasive procedure. I absolutely hate getting smears for all the reasons you state (ND too), but I woman up and get them as I’d rather have the most accurate result, not the least unpleasant procedure. But that’s my choice, just like it’s your your choice not to.

Honestly though, you sound like a right drama llama, OP. The tone of your posts come across as very aggressive and confrontational and your language is so overblown. Your GP is trying to ‘coerce’ you? No, there’s a national screening programme and your GP surgery will get in shit with their local commissioning body, the ICB, if their take up numbers are down, because the ICB will get an earful from the central commissioning body, NHS England, if area figures are down. Plus, they actually do want to guard against cervical cancer. Nice that we live in a country that actually wants to improve outcomes for those women (especially those of us who were too old for the HPV vaccine).

Take this up with NICE (who set clinical guidelines for the NHS) and NHS England (who run the screening programmes) if you have an issue with the cervical screening programme for England and Wales. Don’t blame your GP for trying to do their job!

Remaker · 13/01/2026 20:50

NooNooHead · 13/01/2026 20:28

Just a quick question regarding whether cervical cancer is a hereditary thing... and then someone is more likely to get it if a family member had it...

I have had regular smear tests but not that recently, and I'm going to book one and phone up tomorrow.

My late birth mum had cervical cancer (and was treated for it, but eventually died of a different cancer 😪). Would I be more likely to have a greater risk of getting it?

Sorry to digress the thread a bit 😅

Ask your doctor about this. AFAIK primary cervical cancer is not an inherited cancer as it is almost always caused by HPV. Ovarian and uterine cancers can be genetic (I have a genetic mutation that causes them) and they can spread to the cervix.

OP the most unreasonable statement you’ve made is talking about lack of family history as a reason not to be tested. For those of us with a strong family history of cancer it is very much a reason to be tested. However only around 15% of cancers are genetic. So not having a family history does not make you ‘safe’ in any way.

I’m in Australia and I think we offer the self screening option to low risk women who don’t have HPV. I don’t have a cervix any more so I’m not completely sure.

Frenzi · 13/01/2026 20:50

Seventeenstars · 13/01/2026 20:49

Sounds like Australia is doing it already:

Doing it yourself is fine - if you really know what you are doing.

AffableApple · 13/01/2026 20:51

Why are you bothering us with this when you want your GP's surgery to stop bothering you?

(Just for the record though, nobody actually wants a smear test. They're just, ya know, good for preventing cervical cancer 🙄)

RisingVamp · 13/01/2026 20:51

Ginburee · 13/01/2026 20:31

And you need to check how accurate these tests are before spouting your negativity.

I think it will be a good thing if these self-sampling tests are rolled out. They’ve already been trialled in some areas and there is evidence that they work well.

https://nationalscreening.blog.gov.uk/2024/11/08/hpvalidate-cervical-screening-self-sampling-study-publishes-final-results/

in Australia, everyone has the option of self screening these days, the Netherlands too I believe and several other counties offer it for under-screened populations.

Maybe not quite as accurate as if they were taken in person and obviously no visual check. But, for women who find the test difficult or traumatic and want to be screened, I think it’s a great option. Obviously, if HPV is found then a potentially difficult decision lies ahead. But if it minimises distress then I’m all for it.

HPValidate cervical screening self-sampling study publishes final results – UK National Screening Committee

The HPValidate study has published its final results and found that 4 combinations of HPV self-collection device and test worked well – these can now be used to help find out how self-sampling could be introduced into cervical screening.

https://nationalscreening.blog.gov.uk/2024/11/08/hpvalidate-cervical-screening-self-sampling-study-publishes-final-results

Mumtobabyhavoc · 13/01/2026 20:51

fashionqueen0123 · 13/01/2026 20:30

That seemed to be USA based.

In the uk you can’t test from 21 and it doesn’t detect cell changes unless you have HPV

Q: Are pap smears necessary in the UK

AI web summary:

Yes,
cervical screening (formerly known as Pap smears) is necessary in the UK for anyone with a cervix aged 25 to 64, offered every five years, to check for Human Papillomavirus (HPV) and cell changes that could lead to cervical cancer, even if you've had the HPV vaccine or aren't sexually active. This screening is a vital tool for preventing cancer, as it catches potential problems early, saving thousands of lives annually in the UK

Before you continue to Google Search

https://www.google.com/search?q=cervical+screening&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-ca&client=safari&ved=2ahUKEwiEhteDsomSAxX6HDQIHdeOKggQgK4QegQIARAC

BG2015 · 13/01/2026 20:51

I take ANY test or procedure offered to me, I'm just so grateful we live in a country that can offer us preventative procedures (mostly) and for free.

The mammogram I had unfortunately didn't pick up my breast cancer in 2021 but I still go for my mammograms every year now and will be 5 years cancer free in June.

IdreamedAdreamINtimesGONEby · 13/01/2026 20:52

@BillieWiper how on earth does feeling your own cervix indicate whether you have cancerous or pre-cancerous cell changes?!

Heyheyitsanotherday · 13/01/2026 20:52

fashionqueen0123 · 13/01/2026 20:15

No they aren’t they stopped it a few years ago. So I am interested to know too

I’m uk based and it was 9 years ago. Had the letz procedure just before Christmas and now just have routine tests. I was so lucky. Never tested positive for hpv. However, I know hpv is the most common cause of cervical cancer. by having a smear your cervix is being examined and seen so can potentially pick up any visual issues.
I’m not arsed if a stranger online declines their smear. Up to them and their choice. I am arsed when idiots spout shit online that can damage other people views all under the guise that they have “educated themselves”.

ThePure · 13/01/2026 20:53

BillieWiper · 13/01/2026 20:34

Idk. I could feel if it felt different. But I know it's no excuse.

By the time it would ‘feel different’ it would be very late and huge risk of dying or at least needing a huge operation. They need to examine cells through a microscope to see if they are abnormal which is long long before anything would feel wrong.

fashionqueen0123 · 13/01/2026 20:53

Mumtobabyhavoc · 13/01/2026 20:51

Q: Are pap smears necessary in the UK

AI web summary:

Yes,
cervical screening (formerly known as Pap smears) is necessary in the UK for anyone with a cervix aged 25 to 64, offered every five years, to check for Human Papillomavirus (HPV) and cell changes that could lead to cervical cancer, even if you've had the HPV vaccine or aren't sexually active. This screening is a vital tool for preventing cancer, as it catches potential problems early, saving thousands of lives annually in the UK

Ok so that confirms the OPs reasons then as she has already had a negative HPV test

The AI fails to mention not all tests are checked for cells changes

TaliaTalia · 13/01/2026 20:53

I’ve slept with two men in my life. No risk factors that I know of, have a handful of children I breastfed till they self weaned because I read this reduced the risk further, no hpv, no symptoms whatsoever. Smears every 3 years since 25. Normal smear followed, three years later, by an abnormal smear, followed by multiple invasive surgical procedures for cervical cancer which I’m beyond lucky they caught early before it spread.

Im genuinely not going to judge you because I believe it’s your body, your choice, your right to choose. And I also agree with you about the lack of routine screening for other common cancers. I’m just asking you not to write off the possibility because you think you’re low risk and at least familiarise yourself with potential symptoms.