OnceMoreIntoTheBreachDearFriends ·
12/01/2026 20:54
I work as part of a remote team, 0.4 WTE whereas the person I job share with does the other 0.6 WTE (I have another 0.6 elsewhere). My job share colleague has a reputation across our whole organisation as someone awkward and unfriendly - to the point of bullying accusations and making people cry. She gatekeeps parts of the role to the point that when she's been off sick I've had to ask for help from the rest of the team because she's never shown/shared with me what I need to do for some of our tasks - we do however tend to pick up different parts of the job when we are both at work.
The others are generally polite but not always helpful - I can ask a question in the teams chat and never get a response, and sometimes feel they are quite condescending about me not knowing what to do - I have repeatedly asked to be shown by my job share but she refuses and management won't deal with her. I brushed it off for a while until I was off for surgery last year - they're very big on birthday/sick/new baby flowers, etc. - and it took them five weeks to send anything...
In the past three months I've paid for three people leaving - sometimes for as little as six month secondment - one person's sick leave flowers, and one's wife having a new baby. I turned 40 last month, something which they were aware of especially as some of them are on Facebook and I've had several celebrations with friends/family - and absolutely nothing. Not a card, message, flowers, presents, etc. In contrast, the 0.6 WTE team got me a huge card, Boots voucher, a bottle of prosecco and some Penhaligon's perfume.
If I have done something wrong (I am autistic and more than aware how I could come across) I'd rather know, but how could I ever even begin to find out what the problem is without outright confronting them?