There is a guy who I used to date when I was younger, he has tried to resurface multiple times in my life despite knowing I am engaged to dp and have DC. He himself is also in a long term relationship of ten years. Scummy, I know. My close friend is good friends with his partner so I told my friend what he was up to, left it down to her whether she wanted to relay the info to his partner and went about my life.
That was until my friend then reported back to me she told his partner, fair enough. Apparently she was blind sighted but rather than being angry at her "boyfriend" she was asking and prying around why I was talking to him and what my friend thought my intentions were. This is all fine but I don't like how friend responded. Rather than mentioning the fact I'm engaged, loyal or committed she replied back with "you don't need to worry about her, she's a mum."
Aibu to be really taken a back and hurt by that or am I just being a bit sensitive? I just feel like the way she worded it really under values me as a person, like I could not possibly be considered seriously by a man because I have kids or that I'm not even a threat because of it. I'm not saying I want that sort of attention (clearly I don't) but it feels like such an insult. I'm aware since I was a young mum and still am that maybe I'm just being a bit sensitive since I've really struggled with my loss of identity and accepting that I am no longer as pretty or youthful looking as I was pre kids. Men don't really pay any attention to me anymore and it's taken me some time to get my head around the 180 in treatment I get, from feeling in my prime to now feeling invisible.
To make matters worse I asked her not to mention my kids as I didn't want her partner to know details about my private life but I imagined she read that part of my message too late.
Was she just out of order for saying that or is this a me issue?