Friends new relationship

[Polly345]

I already feel bad writing this. My friend 'met' a man online quite some time ago. She went to meet him about a year ago but the trip was cut short because one of his adult children had a crisis. He lives over 200 miles away. I thought he was due to visit her until she said his children have to be in a better 'headspace' and he needs to recover from a family bereavement.
It feels weird going along with this when she tells me how much they love each other. Im afraid im struggling with the way he is always putting her off and she totally believes him. Is it worse to play along or just be totally honest with my opinion?

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Are you saying you think he cut the trip short because he doesn't fancy her?

Apparently they phone/message every day and tell each other they love each other. I find this strange because there is a lot more to love. In my opinion anyway.

So they have only actually met each other once in person in over a year? That sounds strange and not sure how you can call it a relationship. But if she’s happy not sure there’s much you can say that won’t just upset her. Has she been struggling to meet someone before him?

Has he asked her for money yet? If they’ve never even met it sounds like a fraud relationship to me and you’re right to be concerned.

I would be concerned that he's stringing her along and I would check that she is not giving him money. You're her friend, you shouldn't go along with it if you're worried. You need to talk to her.