To wonder why I bother with online dating?

[Chefpig]

Someone I've been speaking to for a while brought up that his ex finished with him because she didn't want regular sex. When I asked him to define regar, he said everyday. I asked if he had pestered his ex for sex and that was why she finished with him. He said that wasn't the case, but I saw a massive red flag and ran far away.

Then don’t? It’s not compulsory

Eh?

Ok, you don't have to do online dating if you don't want to.

I think the only red flag here is you assuming and verbalising to a complete stranger that they are "pestering" someone for sex. This tells me that your opinion of men is pretty low and that maybe you shouldn't be dating online or offline.

Most of the men in there (99%) are there for a reason 😉.

I recently met up with someone after chatting for a while, we went on a couple coffee dates but I noticed when he talked about home he would say ‘our house’ and revere to ‘we’ rather than ‘I’. Turned out he still lived with his wife. He didn’t see it as an issue because they were no longer in a relationship….more like flat mates. They didn’t have any kids so he couldn’t use that as a reason. He thought I was being unreasonable not wanting to take things further.

The guy before told me the last woman he dated told him ‘he was rubbish in bed and she could see why his wife cheated on him’…….she was right 🤔.

I have been single a loooooong time and have dipped in and out of online dating, I am not sure why I put myself through it as I haven’t found anyone that doesn’t have huge red flags. Currently I am not on any apps other than Facebook dating, I have been tempted to have a look again at the apps but I don’t think I can face it.

Oh I had a colleague like this who lived with his wife but was separated and would take women back to their house. Gross.

Ugh I was just conversation with other people on here. There's always one.