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To re-home our dog

129 replies

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:18

We are an animal loving family. We have 2 cats, a horse, 2 alpaca, hens and a dog. We have had previous dogs. Our current dog, a springer is well trained, well loved. I'm home a lot as we run holiday lets on our land and I have another business where I can be around. We have 2 preschool and one primary school age child.

I've always rescued animals from here, there and everywhere. Only the dog and horse were bought, everyone else arrived by hen rescue, cats protection, neighbours, rehoming groups etc. I love animals and don't give up.

However.... Our springer is 6, We walk him loads, he's well stimulated, he's well trained. But he is very reactive. He bit my wife a year ago when she tried to move him out of the sitting room, she just reached for his collar. He had previously growled and snapped but not bitten. He's been on anxiety medication since he was 2 or 3. We noticed he wouldn't settle, growled when approached if he wasn't happy and snapped if you tried to take of his towelling coat etc. he has to be sedated for vaccinations and it takes multiple vets to even get near him. He bit me too about 6 months ago when I tried to get him out from under the table. Tonight I was playing with him and he suddenly, growled then lunged to bite, he backed off and then lunged again.

We have 4 year old twins and a 6 year old. My mum instinct says that the dog can't stay as I would never forgive myself if he hurts our children. However, it goes against every grain in my body.

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IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 11/01/2026 22:19

Yes you need to rehome your dog

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:21

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 11/01/2026 22:19

Yes you need to rehome your dog

Thank you. I needed to know that I'm not an awful person. I also don't want to be an irresponsible Mum.

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FuzzyWolf · 11/01/2026 22:21

It’s not appropriate for your dog to be around children but realistically you are going to struggle to find a home for him so need to be careful that you aren’t effectively passing him on to somewhere he bites again and is euthanised for it.

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:21

FuzzyWolf · 11/01/2026 22:21

It’s not appropriate for your dog to be around children but realistically you are going to struggle to find a home for him so need to be careful that you aren’t effectively passing him on to somewhere he bites again and is euthanised for it.

That's my huge fear.

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Wolfiefan · 11/01/2026 22:22

Who is likely to want to take on a dog with this issue?

Changingplace · 11/01/2026 22:23

I say this as a dog owner, I’ve always had dogs but yes you need to rehome this dog before someone is hurt and your hand is forced and you have to have the dog put to sleep.

My brothers dog bit his step daughter last year, she needed stitches - police and social services were involved, it was awful for everyone and he had to make the tough decision to have the dog put to sleep.

If you do it now, you must avoid a similar situation. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this, I know you’ll love the dog but it’s not worth the risk.

Edit - Saying all this, after the incident my brother was told by multiple rescues they couldn’t take him with a bite history, and the police told him if he rehomed knowing that the dog could be dangerous he could be prosecuted in the future.

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:23

Wolfiefan · 11/01/2026 22:22

Who is likely to want to take on a dog with this issue?

I'm hoping someone experienced in managing it, who doesn't have children? I'm probably dreaming though

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Anonyalphamom · 11/01/2026 22:24

Much kinder to have him gently put to sleep
will end up in rescue forever or being rehomed time after time .
he is clearly an anxious dog that struggles a bit with life and rehoming him would be unkind.
behavioural euthanasia would be a sensible and kind choice

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:25

Changingplace · 11/01/2026 22:23

I say this as a dog owner, I’ve always had dogs but yes you need to rehome this dog before someone is hurt and your hand is forced and you have to have the dog put to sleep.

My brothers dog bit his step daughter last year, she needed stitches - police and social services were involved, it was awful for everyone and he had to make the tough decision to have the dog put to sleep.

If you do it now, you must avoid a similar situation. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this, I know you’ll love the dog but it’s not worth the risk.

Edit - Saying all this, after the incident my brother was told by multiple rescues they couldn’t take him with a bite history, and the police told him if he rehomed knowing that the dog could be dangerous he could be prosecuted in the future.

Edited

This is a huge fear. Never mind the fact that we have happy, animal loving children. I can't have them hurt. They have to be my first priority.

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Wolfiefan · 11/01/2026 22:25

I think you are. There are very few people who would be skilled enough to take this on. Unless you have breed specific links or know a behaviourist who would be interested.

OnTheBoardwalk · 11/01/2026 22:25

I'm sorry that you and your dog are suffering

i dont understand how people think others will take on a dog that bites people and requires expensive monthly medicine

im so sorry for your dog but I think you'll have to think of an alternative solution before he attacks a child

Femalemachinest · 11/01/2026 22:26

It sounds like you have land. If you cant rehome could you build him a nice outdoor area?

NormasArse · 11/01/2026 22:26

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:21

That's my huge fear.

Just be very honest with the rescue. I think there are specific spaniel rescues.

He definitely can’t be around kids, but there may be someone willing to take him on.

AhBiscuits · 11/01/2026 22:26

You can't rehome a vicious dog, you should PTS.

Ineffable23 · 11/01/2026 22:27

How do you think his quality of life is, if he's so anxious he's on medication and he's still getting upset enough to bite, even in a home where he's loved? Do you think it's realistic that he'll adapt to another home if he's already anxious?

These are genuine questions, I'm a dog auntie not a dog owner so I don't know the answers.

Contrarymary30 · 11/01/2026 22:27

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:21

That's my huge fear.

He may fare better in a home with no kids or other animals . He sounds massively fearful . I'm an animal lover and rescuer too so feel for you but if he bit one of your kids in the face you'd never forgive yourself .

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:27

Femalemachinest · 11/01/2026 22:26

It sounds like you have land. If you cant rehome could you build him a nice outdoor area?

Not really spare space and I think he would be desperately unhappy.

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Icanflyhigh · 11/01/2026 22:27

Anonyalphamom · 11/01/2026 22:24

Much kinder to have him gently put to sleep
will end up in rescue forever or being rehomed time after time .
he is clearly an anxious dog that struggles a bit with life and rehoming him would be unkind.
behavioural euthanasia would be a sensible and kind choice

I agree with this.
As much as we never want to have our pets PTS, sometimes it is the kindest thing.
I know places like Dogs Trust say they never put a healthy dog down - but being reactive isn't healthy.
So sorry you've got to make this decision - be kind to yourself too x

WhatTheFuk · 11/01/2026 22:27

Have you thought about enlisting a very good behavioural expert trainer? There might be some intense work that can be done. Even if the eventual outcome is to rehome, it would improve the chances of success.

50Balesofgrey · 11/01/2026 22:27

Why will somewhere else be different if you rehome? PTS is not the worst thing that can happen, being passed along and getting more anxious would be much worse. I think you need to consider this as an option

Querty123456 · 11/01/2026 22:28

I’d have him put to sleep at home and do your very best to ensure he has a good and peaceful end without any anxiety or fear. I had my elderly dog pts (she had cancer and had reached the end) by a company called dignipets. They only do pts at home and are amazing. They offer oral sedation as an add on for nervous dogs which would be a blessing for a dog who didn’t like vets.

Changingplace · 11/01/2026 22:30

Icanflyhigh · 11/01/2026 22:27

I agree with this.
As much as we never want to have our pets PTS, sometimes it is the kindest thing.
I know places like Dogs Trust say they never put a healthy dog down - but being reactive isn't healthy.
So sorry you've got to make this decision - be kind to yourself too x

Dogs trust wouldn’t take my brothers dog on with a bite history, I imagine because they can’t rehome and struggle to take on too many dogs they know will be in their care forever.

Centipedeswellies · 11/01/2026 22:30

I really hoped to not have him put to sleep as he's not a horrible dog. I'm wondering though...

It's taken me a year to realise this can't go on. That makes me sound irresponsible now, but I honestly just wanted it to be ok.

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DarkForces · 11/01/2026 22:32

Shelters are full and people willing to help are on a highly anxious dog with a history of biting are few and far between. Loving our pets means making hard choices and putting them to sleep with people they love would be kinder than a shelter doing it. Wait until your children are much older if you ever get another.

Procrastinatrixx · 11/01/2026 22:33

Have you tried seeing a behaviourist? I’m just thinking if they can pinpoint the issue for you (a sensory issue like failing eyesight; or otherwise) that might help with either rehoming or the decision to PTS.