Son is in care, recently turned 17.. We were thinking about some sort of plan in regards to him coming from home along with his social worker and placement. We weren't sure when but we were all certain that he'd rather live with me at 18.
Recently hes dropped out. Its not that he's not academically inclined because it was a level 1 - i think this is the first level not the last?- trades course.. most of the mums I've been talking to about this have said "get him into the trades " but that's what was attempted ! He only started in September . I understand that hes had education gaps but he was doing well and then just stopped. We asked if he was being bullied ect- he isn't. Theres been a police case opened recently involving him and we asked if it was that andnif he wanted a break but he said no, he wanted to permanently drop out and had sent a message to college about it. These last few months he was telling everyone how going to college made him feel better about everything else in his life so it doesnt make sense at all. There's no clear reason. He has no gcses and won't sit them again this year.
He seems to want to do everything but a regular job.. Frankly id rather have him in education over him only working (or both) but I thought he'd at least have to do something with all that free time and i had considered that my bias might stem from the fact that my.parents pushed for me to attend college and university. I suggested applying to tescos ect but he insisted that he'd rather walk around town to speak to car wash workers/corner shop store men about part time work- but hasn't yet looked around and i suspect he wont take the initiative. He wants to 'dropship ' (ive googled it a few times and dont quite understand but i suggested that he try a business course at a college at least.. he said no). Hes been telling me that he wants to sell all of his consoles too. I can't tell if he's being entirely serious because he can't get off his games, the staff call me to give me updates and sometimes the only thing they can inform me of is that he spent all day playing
I don't see him working at all at 17 or 18 at this rate. I'm wondering where the line is. Will he come home and remain unemployed and out of education.. I'm reconsidering allowing him back. Am I being unreasonable. Some of my family are telling me that he's still a child but I. Have a younger teenage daughter and I know that those double standards wouldn't apply to her