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Feel so unsupported in life

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holymolly2 · 11/01/2026 00:23

Bit of a self pitying moan tonight. Just feel very down. I have very little support in life. No family except my mum who is an alcoholic and unreliable. She hasn’t always been this way and it really hurts to see how far her mental health and our relationship has fallen. I love her but have had to take a step back for my own sanity. I can’t rely on her.

My dh is a good man in theory. He provides but I don’t feel like he really gives me the emotional support and connection I always need. He’s not particularly hands on with dc and while I know he loves them, the vast majority of everyday parenting falls on me. He wouldn’t think to take them out and do stuff with them, but that’s just his personality in general.

I quite often think to myself if I died what would happen to my dc. They’d have Dh but he has no family support and nor do I. We have a decent circle of friends but they all have their own lives, kids and responsibilities.

I see friends and colleagues who have so much family support from their own parents/siblings, in laws and extended families. I just feel very alone. My dc are my absolute priority in life and all I want to do is get them to an age where they are self sufficient and ideally settled down with their own families. But gosh it’s hard sometimes to carry everything on your own.

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Mullaghanish · 11/01/2026 00:26

Can you make friends with school moms? Meeting others in the same boat helps me… my husband works long hours.. but I enjoy our teens and try to spend time outside with them..

holymolly2 · 11/01/2026 00:29

Mullaghanish · 11/01/2026 00:26

Can you make friends with school moms? Meeting others in the same boat helps me… my husband works long hours.. but I enjoy our teens and try to spend time outside with them..

I do enjoy spending time with my dc and I have a few close friends, some of whom are school mums but I guess what I’m saying is that I dont really have anyone in an emergency. My dc have never stayed out anywhere. I worry sometimes if I got knocked down my a bus what would happen to them because other than dh there is just nobody to support us.

Back when my eldest was little I could have counted on my mum but she has changed so much (very long story, needs its own thread) and I just feel very vulnerable sometimes.

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Italiangreyhound · 11/01/2026 00:29

I agree, build your own mutual support network.

It's difficult I am sure, I attend a lovely friendly church. If you ahve any faith group you are part of, or any group you can get involved with where you can make some meaningful friends, it is useful.

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