Trying to concieve

[Kirsty662]

Hello 👋
Has anyone else had multiple miscarriages, I had a blighted ovum miscarriage and lost my boy at 25 weeks 😢 did anyone go on to have a healthy baby? I've got 3 boys out of previous relationship my partner has a daughter from a previous could It be something genetic? Could I be his age his 37 this year, I can't help but over think is it us? I'm just so tired but so desperate and doctors don't seem to give a stuff😪😪😪

Also I'm d9po tested positive on a pregnancy test but not symtoms at all 😪😪 it's happening again I think😪😪😪😪

I have no advice, I’m just terribly sorry you’re going through this and I can’t imagine how hard it must be.
Hopefully this boosts your thread a little and more knowledgable people can advise.
I truly hope you get the outcome you’re wishing for

Hi, op, sorry for your loss. I had two miscarriages in 2022 and then 2 yrs ago my beautiful twin boys died at 29 weeks. One little boy was stillborn and my second boy died in the NICU 3 days later. I did go on to have a healthy baby who is 9 months old now. I will say the grief is terrible as you know and it doesn't end with a baby you bring home. We still battle each day without our sons. So make sure you are getting proper grief support. I was so numb after my sons died, desperare to get pregnant again but it was actually the grief of walking away without them

Were you tested after losing your son. You are entitled to enquire after your little boy and what happened? Was there a pm? A follow up?

I was obsessed with age and all sorts after my boys died but after seeing others who have gone through child loss, it can happen to anyone. Please dont blame yourselves, i tortured myself for months on end and only now am I coming to terms with it.

Testing positive 9pdo is still quite early, so not having any symptoms doesn’t mean anything bad.

Miscarriages can occur at any age and for many reasons unfortunately and one loss doesn’t mean consecutive losses are on the way.

I’m really for for your loss btw. I had a missed miscarriage in Nov and it’s a pain I wouldn’t wish on anyone. Pregnancy after a loss though is just not the same unfortunately. You are robbed from the joy and are filled with so much anxiety.
I wish I could tell you how to make it better, but honestly there is not much you can do but wait.
If you feel like your anxiety does get too much, reach out to your Gp for a professional to speak to.

Hey thank you for commenting I'm so sorry about your boys, yes they did kind of say what it was but the doctors just keep saying it's not genetic, it was something like an extra chromosome that just occurred during conception, I'm trying to fight to get them to test us but I feel like I'm banging my head against the wall😭😭x

Hey thank you for commenting I'm so sorry about your boys, yes they did kind of say what it was but the doctors just keep saying it's not genetic, it was something like an extra chromosome that just occurred during conception, I'm trying to fight to get them to test us but I feel like I'm banging my head against the wall😭😭x

@Summerlilly thank you for commenting, I really hope your right that it's just too early and this one sticks and is healthy, pregnancy is harder enough but it's definitely harder after losses, I might give it a couple of weeks and test again xx

I won't be much help as I never got answers myself, but just to join you in support and sending lots of love. I'm so sorry for your losses, it's heartbreaking and leaves you with such a desperate helpless feeling.

My first son was born sleeping at 37 weeks in June 2023. I never found out why, even with a post mortem, they said everything looked healthy and it was just "one of those things". My arms still physically ache every time I think about him.
I then went on to having 4 miscarriages over the next year, and again never any answers, everything looked perfect. I heard "one of those things" many times. The medical centre who I was with from my first son forgot to refer us to the miscarriage clinic 2 times, so that pushed back our appointment as it has a long waitlist. I won't get into it but the centre who I lost my son with (and then the mcs) were neglectful and useless, looking back i wish I spoke up more. So my advice would be to not give up, to ask for referrals, tests etc. whatever they can do to help. We should not be made to struggle and grieve in silence.

Eventually we got to our miscarriage clinic appointment and when she went to scan me to see if there were any obvious issues, there was my little baby girl. I didn't even know I was pregnant as I'd had what I thought was a period a couple of weeks before but there she was wiggling away, 10 and a half weeks. I assumed throughout the whole pregnancy that she would not be coming home, that I'd hear the inevitable 'no heartbeat' again, even when I was on the table for my csection I still couldn't believe it. She is currently sleeping in my arms, 16 weeks and perfect. 🩷
Sorry this was really long but I just want you to know I understand how you are feeling and I wish with everything that you will have that little baby in your arms soon. The little ones you lost will always be right there with you, in your DNA and carried in your heart ❤️