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AIBU?

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Would you quit?

6 replies

Ellewoodsbruiser · 10/01/2026 08:31

Details will be vague as it would be very outing so I do apologise!
I started a new job a few months ago. To give a bit of a picture, it’s not in an office environment but I work with a team. I am enjoying the actual job but the manager is really grating on me. She seemed nice during the interviews but now I have the job, she isn’t coming across that way at all. When she talks to me, it comes across very cold. For example if I have done a task she’s asked, when I let her know it’ll just be a thanks with a straight face. This is a role I have done before in other places but this manager runs things very different to other settings I have been in. The problem with that is that she is pulling me up on things as if I’m doing something wrong when it’s just difference of how she runs things. I wouldn’t like this but she will pull me aside and is quite aggressive in tone when she says I shouldn’t do xyz. I say pull me aside but she will do it in the room with other staff in the middle of me working and then I feel shit and uncomfortable trying to continue working. I work hard and it’s just her running things differently but I just feel on edge all the time now. AIBU to look for another job because of this? I feel like she is just always having an issue. To point out also, these are not mistakes in my work - just her wanting me to not do things in the way they are done in every similar setting.

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CotswoldsCamilla · 10/01/2026 08:50

of course YANBU. Life’s too short. If you’re not happy, move on. You would be unreasonable to quit without another role to go to, however, so prioritise that.

MadamCholetsbonnet · 10/01/2026 08:53

I wouldn’t quit until I had a new job lined up. Unless you don’t need the money?

Ellewoodsbruiser · 10/01/2026 09:03

Yes I’d find another job before I quit if I did

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dollyblue01 · 10/01/2026 09:07

Life’s too short to be unhappy in a job and if it’s not the right fit for you for whatever reason, brush up your cv and get job hunting, best of luck 🤞

Mumoftwo388 · 10/01/2026 09:12

I was in a similar situation not too long ago. Thankfully for me I was able to stay with my employer but move to a different setting. I loved the job role but just not the way the manager was being with me. She really had me on edge and as soon as I left work, I was already feeling horrible about having to go back the next day. Had I have not been able to move to a different setting, I would absolutely have looked for a new job and left.

pilates · 10/01/2026 09:13

I would probably give it a little longer to get used to the way she works. If still not happy, I would look for another job.

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