I married my husband last year after 18 months together. We went away together 3 months into the relationship. We were scrolling on his phone on reels and he clicked off the page and he had Snapchat. I asked why he had it lightheartedly and he said it was childish and hadn’t used it for years. He deleted it in front of me. I said that my ex had used it to chat to sex workers on and he said that he’d used it in the past for swapping intimate pictures when he was single so he understood my concerns.
There’s been some sexual issues (?) the last few months in that he’s a lot of the time “too tired” for sex and will say “later” if I try to initiate. This improved a bit and I put it down to work stresses.
Then I got really sick and ended up in hospital for 2 weeks. When I came out I was still poorly and had to have complete bed rest. Husband was pushing for sex even though I wasn’t well, saying stuff like we can do it slowly or let’s just cuddle and see what happens. I went with it a few times because tbh I couldn’t stand the constant asking. It made me exhausted so eventually I said I can’t.
Then he started to take long showers, up to an hour, which he’s never done before. He jokingly said when I was in hospital he’d be masturbating a lot (sorry tmi) which upset me tbh.
Tonight we were ordering food on his phone again and I saw the Snapchat icon again.
I asked why he had redownloaded it. He said he hadn’t. Then he said he must’ve needed to but can’t remember why. I asked when he downloaded it but he said he didn’t know. It was the last downloaded icon on his screen so it must’ve been fairly recently.
He spends a lot of time gaming in his games room alone.
Aibu to think this is shady or am I just being a nag?