DP Indifferent To My Possible (Very Likely) Redundancy

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I'll just go with the basics.

I was notified earlier that this week that my job is at risk of redundancy. I've been there less than 2 years (more than 1 year though)

When I told my DP, all he said was "I think you'll be ok" There's several of us in the mix for redundancy, all of whom have been there much longer than me (I'm thinking last in, first out) so am understandably very anxious and worried at the moment.

AIBU to have expected a bit more support from him? For context, we've been together 6 months and are in an LDR (he lives 2hrs away). We've been on holiday together and spent Christmas/New Year with each other. I'm not expecting him to drop everything and rush to my side, just to be a bit more supportive. Thoughts please.

What would "more supportive" look like to you?

What would support look like to you? It must be a bit of a scary situation, especially having been there less than 2 years - but when you’re 2 hours apart and nothing is confirmed, I’m thinking he’s quite limited?

What would you like him to do exactly?

Forget DP and get yourself in rhe right mindset in case of redundancy. I'm not sure what support you expect from them, being in a LDR, but i cant think of anything valuable they could do aside from wasting your time placating with "there, there, there, thats a shame" type chit chat that could be better spent doing something productive.

I'm not sure what I expected tbh, maybe just ask me how I'm doing? I've told him that I'm not doing great with this news. The thing is I've listened when he's had problems at work, and offered advice when he's asked. I guess it's just made me feel like this is insignificant to him or maybe I'm just being a tad oversensitive given the circumstances......

And yes, to PP I am being proactive in looking for alternative employment 🙂

You already told him you are not doing great. Did you want him to ask you again at another time?
I find that it always works best to first decide what it is that you want another person to do and then just ask them to do that. For example "I am not dealing with this news well. I don't need any practical support or advice from you but could you please check in with me daily to see how I am doing".

Thank you Catza 😊 I'll be speaking to him soon, so will see how the conversation goes. I don't want it to be 'all about me' I'm not that type of person and we have a break together planned in a couple of weeks so I don't want to put a downer on that. We work in the same sector so I just thought he'd be a little more aware.