To think dh is being absolutely pathetic?

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We’ve had really heavy snow here last night and this morning.

Dh and I have got wellies but ds14yo and ds16yo didn’t have any boots that fit. We found a pair of ds1s old wellies for ds2, so all fine.

Ds1 only had an old pair two sizes too small.

Anyway, 16yo ds went out with his mates and borrowed a pair of dhs walking boots. These walking boots had been in the cupboard for 4 years and dh hasn’t worn or touched them, in fact they’ve nearly been donated several times and he kept them just in case. Bear in mind Dh has been wearing his wellies in the snow.

Dh has gone mental at Ds for borrowing his boots saying he’s trashed them. They’re not trashed they are just wet from the snow. He’s saying ds should be more prepared and have bought his own wellies.

He’s 16 and at college with a part time job ffs.

I know ds should have asked first, but we weren’t home and he was excited to go out.

I think it’s absolutely mean and pathetic to not let your own son borrow some boots for the snow.

He sounds awful

Yanbu. What a fucking baby he is!

Yeh your husband has massively over reacted and would encourage him to apologise to your son.

If they were something he wore regularly then yes he has a right to be annoyed not to be asked first but considering they’ve been festering in a cupboard for 4 years he’s being ridiculous.

What a prick

Considering they are an old pair he was planning to get rid off he should really stop acting ridiculous! And honestly DH needs to be asked why he hadn’t ensured DS1 had a decent pair of shoes for the snow?! What an irresponsible parent he is!

Your husband has a bit of a nerve saying a 16 yo should have been more organised and bought their own boots. Given his are 2 sizes too small I'm guessing his parents haven't been organised and bought him what he needed for a couple of years! No judgement towards you OP, it's easily done, just hypocritical of your H to say that.

So what does he think his son should have done?
Miss the fun & stay in?
Wear trainers in the snow?

Agree with @JLou08 above - if he's so hot on preparedness, why hasn't he bought his kid the right shoes for bad weather?

Infuriating pettiness. I'd be most annoyed.

Is this out of character behaviour for him, or is he always this horrible?

you’ve got a man child

It’s a pair of boots. It doesn’t snow very often. They’ll dry out. I’d have lobbed them at him.

Is he his biological dad?

If he wants to throw around being unprepared then surely the failing here is on the parents for being ill prepared and not buying him some considering his are two sizes too small?

I'd love to know his answer to:

'Why didn't you ensure that DS had a suitable pair of boots for extreme weather, so he didn't need to borrow anyone elses?'

I bet the answer will be that it was someone elses responsibility to ensure HIS child had suitable footwear!

It’s a lot more than pathetic. What sort of parent begrudges their own child suitable shoes?

It’s a parent’s job to provide these things for sixteen year olds, that’s why we still get child benefit at that age unless we earn too much.

In your position OP, make sure your son knows you don’t agree with his dad and that you are willing to stick up for him when he’s wronged.

I bet this is not his first demonstration of manchild behaviour is it?

Keep laughing in his face. They want a rise out of people so when you laugh they are discombobulated completely.

Err isn't buying children shoes the parent's responsibility (ie your husband). If he's not touched the boots to apply any type of product to them in 4 years they're fecked anyway.

Selfish twat

Your husband is a twat and should apologise to his son.

At 16, it's his parents' responsibility to ensure he has suitable footwear.

Pathetic? No.

A twat and an inadequate parent? Yes.

Selfish and mean behaviour. It’s not the responsibility of a sixteenth year old to buy their own footwear.

Totally ridiculous and really unpleasant.

Feel your pain op

Similar situation here and the childishness, bordering on mental health issues boggles my mind

Your husband's a prick. HTH.

FFS. YANBU.