3 kids, 11,14 and 16. All have the same dad but eldest went to live with his dad a couple of years ago. He has been on some big holidays with his dad where the other two didn’t go/get invited. We’ve had whole family holidays every year where he has come with us. The other two have been questioning why their brother gets to go away so often and have extra holidays. He also has his GCSE’s this year and we were thinking to go away at half half term to keep costs down. AiBU to not bring him this time?
We have also been on UK holidays with extended family which in the last 1.5 years he declines to come on which upsets me and most recently has only really messaged if he wants something money wise (I know this is typical teen behaviour but it’s still quite upsetting) so I kind of feel like he isn’t putting in effort to spend time with us and his siblings/extended family so why should we go to the expense of bringing him when he can’t be bothered. I feel awful feeling like that, we do generally have a good relationship but his dad has a big emotional sway over him. I’m also conscious I don’t want to push him further away but also just as worried about the other two feeling like he is being favourited by his dad and so trying to balance it out a bit too.