I’m not massively annoyed off, but AIBU to be a bit pissed off that my DH has just told me about a bunch of times different women have hit on him over the years? I mean I’m not pissed off he’s told me, I’m just a bit pissed off he’s not told me before or at the time it happened.
One woman about 20 years ago who was a fellow manager in a different department ‘lunged’ at him and tried to kiss him on a work night out. He backed off, she apologised and it was never mentioned by anyone again.
Different job 5 years ago, a woman from the same company but he didn’t work with regularly was ‘harassing’ him all night and “offered herself on a plate”, to the point other people had to tell her to stop because she wouldn’t take no for an answer. When he was leaving (driving and not drinking) he couldn’t get into his car because every time he tried to unlock it to get in, she tried to get into the passenger seat. He had to go back into the building and shake her off/lose her before running out and making his escape.
Another job 10+ years ago there was a group of them all quite good friends and one of the women walked up to him on a team night out and said loudly “come outside so I can suck you off”… he says he said “NO!” and laughed at the inappropriateness of it, which multiple people heard. She did that to a few of the men. The next morning there was a pair of knickers in the car park, which she confessed were hers but wouldn’t admit who the ‘lucky’ man was who had accepted her ‘invitation’. As a group they laughed about the way she behaved that night for years to come.
He doesn’t work in any of these jobs or with any of the same people anymore, but is still in contact with a few.
He wasn’t being showy off in telling me this, like all these women have tried it on, aren’t I a stud? And he wasn’t acting like I should be grateful that he’d not succumbed to any them, it just came up in conversation, and he said he doesn’t really know why he didn’t tell me at the time, but he thinks because I’d have been pissed off that he was still interacting with them afterwards. And also maybe that if it wasn’t just the once that he must’ve been leading them on into thinking they were in with a chance.
I don’t think I would’ve been pissed off if he’d told me when each one happened, but I do feel a bit pissed off now. AIBU unreasonable?
ETA I might’ve been more pissed off about the last one, Mrs BJ, because she came to our wedding reception so had met me. Then 2 years later we went to her wedding (she hadn’t yet met then husband on the proposition night)… but my pissed off-ness with that one is also that I stood talking to her at her wedding none the wiser that she’d offered my husband a BJ… feel a bit of a mug that he’d not told me that and I stood there complimenting her etc, when if I’d have known I could’ve at least made a sly dig like “let’s hope none of your guests here offer your husband a blow job in a car park in the near future hey? 😉”