Angry woman on plane, Was we BU?

[Raynaud]

7 hour flight with DH and DS(4). As soon as seatbelt lights went off DH fully reclined exhausted DSs seat so he could sleep. The woman behind snapped at DH to put the seat back up as drinks would be coming around soon. DH said no as drinks currently not being served. She called him a selfish twat to her OH.
Drinks/snacks start coming around. Woman tells DH to put the seat back up. DH put the seat back up half way so to not wake DS. She tells him to put it fully up. He tells her DS is sleeping. Her OH then tells her to speak to steward which she does. Steward asks DH to put the seat back up - he tells her DS is sleeping. I tell him to just put it back up, he again says DS is sleeping. Air Steward starts getting pissed off, I snap at DH to put the bloody seat up. He does so reluctantly and DS does not wake.

Once everything is cleared away he puts the seat fully back again. The woman complains that he’s doing that out of badness because “the kid” is still asleep. Her OH confirms that yes, DH is a twat.

My take on it is that both were being unreasonable at different times. My sister however says this was all on DH.

Well it was for me in March, the table was coming right up to my chest if I remember correctly. However even if that was not the case - as I’ve said - the policy is still for seats to be upright during meal times.

Anyone can recline a seat if they want to

she was BU

Because when you recline your seat it moves the tray closer to the person behind you leaving them with much less space.
It's rude and selfish.

I fly quite a lot, always in economy and on cheap airlines- to me this is just not a problem. Seats recline so people can sleep or rest, and I don't find that people reclining their seats gets in my way- it is not even a problem to eat or drink with a reclined seat in front of you. I am an average sized woman- 5'7".

DH was rude and entitled.

Nothing wrong with reclining, but lets be honest your husband was being awkward and a complete nob.

I suppose that's a fair point as this took place on a plane, although it wasn't in quotes.

I think if it's a night flight and food service is finished then its OK to recline. Otherwise not.

What you decide to do with your seat doesn’t just impact you…it impacts on others. Therefore you need to consider their comfort too, not just your own? It’s hardly rocket science.

I'm still not sure why day/night comes into this.

As lots of pps have said you can be jumping on a day flight having connected from a horrible red eye or just worked a night shift and need sleep.

There are also lots of Long Haul 12 hour plus (sometimes plus plus ) daylight sectors .... people aren't seriously suggesting no recline on those...are they?

Your husband is an absolute twat and I'd be embarrassed if mine behaved like this. The seat didn't need to be fully reclined at anyppont. Poor woman ,it's absolutely miserable and claustrophobic when a seat is reclined. I think the function to reclined should be taken out then all these arguments would stop. It's why I always do business class on longer flights now. Absolute heaven in comparison

True! I did find your comment humorous but then realised it was likely a different language thing

I been on a fair few European flights last year and most had seats that wouldn't recline. The sooner this is rolled out the better

Don’t defend him, he behaved really badly

Everyone knows it’s really fucking inconsiderate to recline the seat while everyone is crammed in like sardines - he shouldn’t have even tried it

Very bizarre.
flight policy 🙄
would you really wake up a 4 year old child, or make them uncomfortable whilst they are trying to sleep. I wouldn’t. I say this being 5”11 - I know how uncomfortable planes are. And I think it’s bizarre adult behaviour to argue about it. I would use my husbands tray for my drink if I needed to- and who is eating aeroplane food- it’s gross.

I know there is no rule about reclining except at mealtimes, but I think it’s a bit antisocial except when sleeping at night.
I try not to recline but on a recent economy flight the person in front of me reclined from the outset, so after the meal I reclined mine as I felt claustrophobic in such a small space.
The people behind complained to the stewardess who asked me to put my seat back up. I said I would willingly do so if she got the person in front of me to do the same, as the rule needed to apply to everyone.

I fly a similar number of times long haul and with a range of airlines.
In my experience if the seat in front of you is reclined then it makes using hand tray difficult. That’s why the cabin crew ask people to put their seat in the upright position during the meal service. That’s pretty standard across all airlines ime

Yes but she started being argumentative beforehand, it takes them nearly an hour to get to economy drinks from take off. You have a sleeping child in front of you, at most you’d say excuse me I can’t get my tray down, do you mind just while I eat. The problem is everyone is so selfish, everyone only thinks of themselves. It’s a sleeping 4 year old.

I know there is no rule about reclining except at mealtimes

...and even that isn't a universal rule...

A lot of things people here claiming as rules (written or not), or "Flight Policy"🤔are no such thing.

Best bet is stick with what the cabin crew ask/tell you to do.

Yes he is definitely a twat. How long was the flight?

Seats are not supposed to be reclined at all during drinks or meals. And drinks are served quite quickly so yes it is very unreasonable.

I had a selfish person in front of me once who refused to stop reclining during meal times, I told the flight attendants I really didn’t mind to save them a tricky job. I got a nice full-sized bottle of bubbly for free at the end 😊

Poor you being married to someone that cringe and pig-headed. What an example for your kid 😬

Every flight I’ve ever been on has had people being asked to lift their seat back up during meals/drink service. So it does seem pretty standard.

Couldn’t get past ‘was’ you. Sorry. 😂😱

My 4 year old is more important than any random person, and seats are allowed to be reclined. I love his level of pettiness because she was so rude with how she spoke about him. She can recline too if she wants to.

If somebody reclines their seat in front of me in a twatish fashion I find I get all clumsy and accidentally bash their seat back on a regular basis which must be terribly annoying for them.