Bit of backstop, with DP 10 years, have a 6year old DD together. He's been off work for nearly a year due to physical and MH issues, I work part time but often take OT meaning some weeks I do FT hours. I have my staff party tonight, first time I've been out in 5 years. DH has no issue me going out, but I'm just not a social person. I was to get my hair dyed and styled early this morning, then was going to travel to a nearby town to get my makeup done early afternoon. Hairdressers messaged at 0730 to cancel due to illness. I'm in a bit of a flap as my roots are awful (naturally very dark hair and white roots) so I decided to do my own roots then ring round various hairdressers at 0900 to see if anyone can style my hair. I'm rubbish at doing my own hair and I've a shoulder injury at the minute too which makes it harder. Due to DH snoring I had slept in older DS bedroom last night (he was away) but had to go in to our bedroom to get the dye, in doing so I knocked something over by accident and woke him. He woke up annoyed, I apologised and left the room. Done my hair in the bathroom which is right next to the bedroom, tried to be as quiet as possible but there was noise from me removing the bathmat and running the taps etc. At 0800 DD wakes up and goes into him. I explained I had to do my own hair which meant I could stay at home slightly longer but I still had a lot on today. DD stayed in with him until 0900 and then I took her downstairs for breakfast (she's off due to a diarrhoea bug). At 0930 I go up and say I managed to get a hair appointment so I'd have to leave soon. He is furious saying that he's had no sleep since 0730 when I woke him and "I'm to be back by lunchtime" to let him rest. I explained that I had my makeup early afternoon so I'd be back after. He said "he didn't care, you're to be back at lunchtime". I had told him yesterday that he would have to watch DD most of the day as I'd be out, yes he was woken earlier than planned but had my original appointment happened I would've been leaving at 0830 anyway and would've been showering etc and 0800. He was still very angry swearing about me waking him and said "just go". I went to my appointment but feel so deflated and like shit. I know there will be an atmosphere when I return ( well after lunch!) and he'll likely want me to watch DD until its time for me to leave which will mean I can't enjoy getting ready. What particularly annoys me is that he woke me at 0500 the other morning when I was sleeping on the sofa to tell me that he was awake most of the night and couldn't settle upstairs so wanted to come down to watch TV. I get it's annoying being woken, no one likes it but I feel his reaction is completely disproportionate. Or does he have a point and I'm selfish?