So - opinions please. I live very rurally in the far north of Scotland with my husband and kids. My family live in the south west and we now have two older relatives down there, living separately but near to each other, who need a great deal of care. For clarity, both are financially well off but neither want paid carers in their houses so family members living nearby go in to help on a daily basis. I haven't lived down there since I was a teenager, and was surprised when, before marrying my husband a few years back, I was told that I was selfish to be remarrying and moving away (for clarity at that point I lived in North London) since the family had assumed that as a divorcee, once my kids were through university I would be moving back down to care for the older family members as they aged and needed more care . Nobody had ever discussed this with me before that point and so as these relatives have needed more care I have been careful to go down every few months for a couple of weeks at a time and pull my weight with the other family members. As well as taking over getting the two older people medical appointments and social visits I deep clean their houses, fill their freezers (which are always empty when I arrive for that purpose), sort their gardens and take them clothes and shoes shopping, as well as cleaning and mending anything in their wardrobes that need attention. This had to stop when my husband became seriously ill, but he is well enough for the kids and local friends to step in if needed and I have managed to pick the reins back up for going down and helping out. Now with the recent weather drop we have been snowed in, and I was due to travel down tomorrow which is obviously not happening. I rang around and let everyone concerned know as soon as the first snow prediction was in, and the big blizzards came in so quickly that I couldn't get out and travel before they arrived. Because we are in a very out of the way place we need the roads to be safe and accessible before I can travel down - I have suggested rebooking my rail tickets for a week or so's time and coming then, and I have apologised to everyone for the inconvenience. However, they are acting like I am just being disobliging and burning up my phone and social accounts with complaints about how I am letting everyone down. I have shared photos showing that we are still in a state of snowy siege and can't get down to the main road, they have responded with photos of the news reports of the nearest city - 2 hours away - showing the clean up crews and traffic movement. Not sure what I can do without a TARDIS - I am stuck and offering the best solution I have at this time. AIBU?