Can a MIL who hates her DIL love her grandchildren?

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AIBU to think this is not possible? So if MIL has always been nasty and hateful to DIL, she can’t genuinely love the DILs children and have a great relationship with them? Or is it possible for a MIL to separate the two?

In your case OP, from your updates, she sounds like a bloody nasty woman and you'd be best off keeping her at a distance as much as possible.

Coming from a family with some unkind (to say the least) members, part of my recovery was to actually work out what the word love means to me. I defined it as: always caring about that person's best interests. So, if you love someone you don't hurt them, you support their wellbeing, you don't insult them etc etc.

It's handy to have a clear definition. Families make our perception foggy and we can lose perspective.

My SIL (DHs sister) can't stand me and has made it clear that extends to our children 🤷‍♀️ she won't even let them call her aunt. At big family gatherings now they don't realise she's close family and think she's a distant cousin.

Can a daughter in law love her husband despite hating his mother? Its the same thing.