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To think that in certain professions, you shouldn’t be openly discussing work in public?

34 replies

gfv12 · 07/01/2026 11:12

Trying to keep the title concise but here’s the scenario:

On a fairly busy train. Two women loudly discussing a child services related case / tribunal. No names disclosed of course, but what he said, she said, the next bit of the process, etc. Some whispered phrases (probably the identifiable information).

Now I’m usually a mind your own business person but my headphones died and it was loud enough to be the verbal equivalent of reading an article in the Metro.

I know the chances of figuring out who this is about or anyone of relevance overhearing are slim, but I can’t help feel there are some professions in which you’re bound by confidentiality and you apply common sense and not discuss such things in public.

YANBU - plenty of more appropriate places to discuss (go to your office)
YABU - mind your own business

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singthing · 07/01/2026 17:48

Last year I recorded a braying twit yelling on a call about some deals he was trying to close, and emailed all the companies he loudly named about it (including the salient names and deal particulars he mentioned).

If he had at least made an attempt at being discreet I might have let him off, but standing in the vestibule bit and practicing his golf swing with his airpods in was too far.

I got some very quick replies and I am not sure he made his target that quarter.

FrightfulNightfull · 07/01/2026 18:16

People…. I don’t understand them sometimes!
I won’t go into this in any detail but a serious investigation in a hospital (involving me) was shared by the other person involved ..on Facebook.
I knew a number of the people informed about the investigation who had no reason to be aware of it - so I screenshotted all the comments and the names of those who’d made them and sent them to the CEO of the hospital.
Furthermore .. it was actually someone on Mn who contacted me privately who gave me the heads up that this was going on in the first place (when I was once asking for advice about proceeding with the action I was taking).., so whoever that person was I thank you!
It’s remarkable how apparently anonymised information gets noticed if it’s wafting around in public spaces!

ViciousCurrentBun · 07/01/2026 18:52

I remember being on a train to London and the lad next to me was looking at his interview letter. I knew the interviewer.

gfv12 · 07/01/2026 20:47

singthing · 07/01/2026 17:48

Last year I recorded a braying twit yelling on a call about some deals he was trying to close, and emailed all the companies he loudly named about it (including the salient names and deal particulars he mentioned).

If he had at least made an attempt at being discreet I might have let him off, but standing in the vestibule bit and practicing his golf swing with his airpods in was too far.

I got some very quick replies and I am not sure he made his target that quarter.

That’s brilliant 😂

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gfv12 · 07/01/2026 20:49

@FrightfulNightfull thats a really good point! Facebook is just another minefield of these things

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RH1234 · 07/01/2026 20:54

A case of mine, we had to stop a “contractor” who was chatting away about a child abuse victim at one of our sites as, unknowingly to them that the father in law (staff member) of the victim was in the room listening to them chat away.

Lost the contract for his firm.

Bunny44 · 07/01/2026 20:54

endofthelinefinally · 07/01/2026 16:45

You inform the practice manager at the surgery by phone and follow up in writing. That is a sackable offence and there will be an audit trail of who has accessed patients' records.

I didn't know which GP practice she worked for. I know the area but it's London so could have been one of very many.

gfv12 · 07/01/2026 21:49

RH1234 · 07/01/2026 20:54

A case of mine, we had to stop a “contractor” who was chatting away about a child abuse victim at one of our sites as, unknowingly to them that the father in law (staff member) of the victim was in the room listening to them chat away.

Lost the contract for his firm.

Oh for gods sake. That’s awful.

I do think people just need to apply a bit more common sense.

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SwishMyCape · 07/01/2026 22:01

Unprofessional and likely to be a disciplinary offence.

A friend recently reported a group of midwifery students overhead discussing a range of cases on a busy commuter train. The hospital and the university both took action as this group of students had brought their profession, the hospital and the university into disrepute.

People, rightly, expect better of social workers, healthcare and other professionals.

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