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I’ve just thrown out my kids dad of 14 years due to his ongoing alcohol and cocaine addiction.. about to become a single mum of 3 with one being still 1 and another on the way (currently pregnant) I know it’s the right thing to do but I feel so low at the prospect of being on my own with 3 and two being so young I also miss and grieve the future that I thought we’d have with the sober him that can be there (I’ve tried doing this multiple times in hope he’d get help) but I cannot continue this viscious cycle I’m so heartbroken and worried about the future please tell me it will
ger easier has anyone else been through anything similar? Xx

The only experience I have to offer is that of my husband. My DSD's mum was an alcoholic - drank herself to death. DH's regret is that he didn't leave her sooner - her chaos created a lot of instability and trauma for DSD.

Alcoholism and parenting do not mix. You've done the right thing, hard as it seems now.

Do you have any other support- family, friends?

Thank you, a lot of things I’ve read have said the same thing about regretting not doing it sooner I can see the affect it has on my eldest and I can’t put them through it anymore. Yes I do but I feel like everyone is busy with their own lives/families now I’m in my 30s xx

Awwww, I hope you’re OK. If it’s any consolation, I was a single mum to five children!

They may seem busy, but do reach out to them. I would definitely want to help if a friend or family member was in this position.

Good luck to you xx

Sounds like you’re being extremely brave and following your best instincts. I think many of us try to stagger on in the face of the inevitable and it just drains us and hurts those close to us. I imagine this won’t be easy, but I reckon you’re doing the best for yourself and your children. Hopefully you have good support close by, if not, there are many organisations that could help. You don’t have too go it totally alone. Good luck