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Was rear ended - other driver blamed me and he has a witness

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Charcharm · 06/01/2026 17:54

was Stationary for around five seconds at a t junction with a give way box, traffic ahead of me meant I couldn’t advance so I was letting one or two cars through. All of a sudden there is a crash from the impact of the car behind me driving into me.

we move over to a side road and exchange details. I’m shaking from the shock at this point. The guy had a friend in the car so has a witness to back up his story, which is that I slammed the breaks out of nowhere which caused this to happen.

This is completely untrue but that’s his story. I don’t have a witness as I didn’t have the presence of mind to get the details of the people around who saw the incident. I’ve made a police report, my husband spoke to the other driver who repeated his story. Will call insurance next.

what’s my situation? There is around £400-£1000 damage to my car and I have a light concussion (despite the low velocity). I feel sick and shouldn’t be on my phone but I’m feeling so stressed, and wanted to see if anyone else has been in a similar situation?

Thanks in advance

OP posts:
GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 06/01/2026 20:20

It’s standard IMO that if you go into the back of another vehicle, it’s always your fault.
As pps say, they are trying it on!

Imdunfer · 06/01/2026 20:21

ReadingSoManyThreads · 06/01/2026 20:06

But OP was stopped in the road, to let other drivers pull out of a Give Way, that is not a valid reason to stop on a highway. She should not have been doing that. So it isn't a clear cut case here either.

Irrelevant.

Livpool · 06/01/2026 20:21

His witness isn’t worth much as he knows them! I used to work in car insurance and we wouldn’t take much notice of what a passenger said - unless it’s a taxi or bus!

OscillateItsTitsALot · 06/01/2026 20:21

ReadingSoManyThreads · 06/01/2026 20:06

But OP was stopped in the road, to let other drivers pull out of a Give Way, that is not a valid reason to stop on a highway. She should not have been doing that. So it isn't a clear cut case here either.

Doesn’t mean people can crash into you.

And BTW youre wrong, she was unable to move forwards. Is she supposed to block the path of people who can move forward?!

CombatBarbie · 06/01/2026 20:23

Watto1 · 06/01/2026 17:56

Even if you had slammed on your brakes, the other driver would still be at fault for not leaving a safe stopping distance between you.

Edited

Yup, the one who hits the rear is 9/10 blamed for not allowing enough time to brake.

PoppySaidYesIKnow · 06/01/2026 20:24

Ring your insurance company and explain what happened. If someone drives into the back of you, they are always at fault. Witness / passenger can say what they want. Give insurance company the details and leave them to deal with it. It is NOT your fault.

2021x · 06/01/2026 20:30

Your car was stationary and he went into the back of you. He didn't leave enough stopping distance.

I was rear ended when I was stationary on the motorway due to a queue and the other guy was going full speed. It was quite shocking at the time (the noise it makes is bad enough).

eastegg · 06/01/2026 20:32

ReadingSoManyThreads · 06/01/2026 20:06

But OP was stopped in the road, to let other drivers pull out of a Give Way, that is not a valid reason to stop on a highway. She should not have been doing that. So it isn't a clear cut case here either.

Nonsense. She’d been stopped for 5 seconds. Even if she suddenly stopped, he still should have left enough braking distance especially given they were at a junction. In any event she says it was a ‘box’, clearly one of those areas where you have to stop if your exit from it is not clear, in which case she was doing what she was mandated by the HC to do.

It is clear-cut.

UninitendedShark · 06/01/2026 20:34

Don’t worry, he is at fault. Hope you’re ok, it is a very shocking experience even if considered minor.

2026x · 06/01/2026 20:35

If you drive into the back of someone it’s always your fault (I should know I’ve both done it snd gad it done to me). You should always be far enough away from the car in front to stop, regardless of how hard they slam their brakes on.

ArkaParka · 06/01/2026 20:35

Charcharm · 06/01/2026 17:54

was Stationary for around five seconds at a t junction with a give way box, traffic ahead of me meant I couldn’t advance so I was letting one or two cars through. All of a sudden there is a crash from the impact of the car behind me driving into me.

we move over to a side road and exchange details. I’m shaking from the shock at this point. The guy had a friend in the car so has a witness to back up his story, which is that I slammed the breaks out of nowhere which caused this to happen.

This is completely untrue but that’s his story. I don’t have a witness as I didn’t have the presence of mind to get the details of the people around who saw the incident. I’ve made a police report, my husband spoke to the other driver who repeated his story. Will call insurance next.

what’s my situation? There is around £400-£1000 damage to my car and I have a light concussion (despite the low velocity). I feel sick and shouldn’t be on my phone but I’m feeling so stressed, and wanted to see if anyone else has been in a similar situation?

Thanks in advance

Barrister here. On either account this guy didn’t leave a sufficient distance between himself and you and is therefore at fault. His witness is not independent so although his evidence is admissible a court may place less weight on it. Give your account to your insurance company and insist that they deny liability on your behalf.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 06/01/2026 20:37

OscillateItsTitsALot · 06/01/2026 20:21

Doesn’t mean people can crash into you.

And BTW youre wrong, she was unable to move forwards. Is she supposed to block the path of people who can move forward?!

I know that doesn't mean people can crash into you, I'm not stupid. But she WAS supposed to move forward, if there was room for her to let out "one or two cars", means she should have been making progress, which she wasn't. Not sure of the question you've asked, makes no sense in this situation. If you're saying the cars she let out could move forward, then she could've moved forward herself. They were at a Give Way, she wasn't.

Anyway, the driver shouldn't have rear-ended her, but it does matter why she was just stopped in the road.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 06/01/2026 20:39

2026x · 06/01/2026 20:35

If you drive into the back of someone it’s always your fault (I should know I’ve both done it snd gad it done to me). You should always be far enough away from the car in front to stop, regardless of how hard they slam their brakes on.

Not true. If someone changes lanes, leaving you without a safe braking distance, then they brake hard and you rear end them, you will NOT be at fault. Yes, most cases of rear ending are the fault of the car behind, but there are some exceptions to this, so it's not "always your fault" at all.

Tabitha005 · 06/01/2026 20:41

Putneydad7 · 06/01/2026 18:50

I was crashed into and as it was at Heathrow airport drop off I told my ins Co to get the cctv. I was horrified when a month later they came back and said it was 50/50 and both drivers would lose NCB and have to pay excesses. The reason for this was that I’d allegedly pulled into the other driver’s lane and braked (a total lie put forward by other driver) I called very angrily and they hadn’t requested the cctv and when I checked it wasn’t kept after a month, so was too late. I refused to accept their decision and threatened legal action. They quickly backed down. I suspect they were insuring both drivers through one of their many brands and this was the cheapest resolution for them.
So in summary if the ins co messes you around get shirty!!

Edited

That’s the nub of it, isn’t it? Insurance companies can be scammers just as much as some bastard who brakes in order to get you to ram up the back of them.

My neighbour fraudulently claimed damage to his car that didn’t exist when I very lightly rubbed against his bumper thanks to his stupid and selfish parking practices. My insurance company DIDN’T EVEN BOTHER TELLING ME THEY’D SETTLED THE CLAIM FOR £2,500. LV if anyone’s interested - absolute arseholes.

So, I was merrily renewing my insurance the following year and telling prospective new insurers that I didn’t have any claims history when, lo and behold, one of the prospective insurers informed me that wasn’t actually the case.

I made a complaint to LV who made some pathetic excuses and denied all responsibility for settling a blatantly fraudulent claim. I should really have complained to the insurance ombudsman. This was about three years ago so it’s probably too late now.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 06/01/2026 20:42

OscillateItsTitsALot · 06/01/2026 20:19

He doesn’t have a leg to stand on OP but I think it’s a good reminder for everyone to buy a dash cam. You can get them for £25.

It never ceases to amaze me the cheeky fuckery of people at fault in crashes and how far they’ll go to push the blame elsewhere. Reminds of this idiot that went viral a few years ago - I bet the driver was glad he had a dashcam!

Wow! That woman is seriously delusional!!!

2026x · 06/01/2026 20:43

ReadingSoManyThreads · 06/01/2026 20:39

Not true. If someone changes lanes, leaving you without a safe braking distance, then they brake hard and you rear end them, you will NOT be at fault. Yes, most cases of rear ending are the fault of the car behind, but there are some exceptions to this, so it's not "always your fault" at all.

Yes you’re right. There are a few exceptions which are not relevant to this situation. Better?

OscillateItsTitsALot · 06/01/2026 20:44

ReadingSoManyThreads · 06/01/2026 20:37

I know that doesn't mean people can crash into you, I'm not stupid. But she WAS supposed to move forward, if there was room for her to let out "one or two cars", means she should have been making progress, which she wasn't. Not sure of the question you've asked, makes no sense in this situation. If you're saying the cars she let out could move forward, then she could've moved forward herself. They were at a Give Way, she wasn't.

Anyway, the driver shouldn't have rear-ended her, but it does matter why she was just stopped in the road.

No, she couldn’t move forward and you aren’t supposed to block junctions when traffic is at a standstill.

Honestly the lack of knowledge of drivers is scary and probably explains why there’s so many shit driver

Womaninhouse17 · 06/01/2026 20:45

It doesn't matter whether you slammed your brakes on or not. He should have been at a safe distance which would give him time to stop if you did stop suddenly. He is at fault.

anyolddinosaur · 06/01/2026 20:45

If your insurance company do not support you fight it. The assumption with a rear end collision is that the other driver should have left enough distance to stop so they are automatically at fault. Some insurers may try to persuade you to go 50/50 - fight it, you'll win.

Somerford · 06/01/2026 20:47

Even if slamming your brakes on made you liable (which it almost always doesn't, drivers behind you need to leave a safe stopping distance), his mate in the passenger seat is not something you need to worry about. Witnesses need to be independent.

tommyhoundmum · 06/01/2026 20:51

Charcharm · 06/01/2026 17:54

was Stationary for around five seconds at a t junction with a give way box, traffic ahead of me meant I couldn’t advance so I was letting one or two cars through. All of a sudden there is a crash from the impact of the car behind me driving into me.

we move over to a side road and exchange details. I’m shaking from the shock at this point. The guy had a friend in the car so has a witness to back up his story, which is that I slammed the breaks out of nowhere which caused this to happen.

This is completely untrue but that’s his story. I don’t have a witness as I didn’t have the presence of mind to get the details of the people around who saw the incident. I’ve made a police report, my husband spoke to the other driver who repeated his story. Will call insurance next.

what’s my situation? There is around £400-£1000 damage to my car and I have a light concussion (despite the low velocity). I feel sick and shouldn’t be on my phone but I’m feeling so stressed, and wanted to see if anyone else has been in a similar situation?

Thanks in advance

It is almost always the car that rear ended you's fault.

Get on to your insurance company straight away. He wasn't paying attention.

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 06/01/2026 20:52

Nothing matters apart from the fact that he drove into the back of you. That's it. Your way ahead was a box junction and you couldn't move forwards until it was clear to do so. He wasn't paying enough attention and drove into the back of you.

The fact he had a witness only means that someone else saw him drive into the back of you, and even if you 'slammed the brakes on out of nowhere', he is still at fault. It was a busy junction and you deduced that you couldn't go forwards so you braked. His fault for not noticing.

FerrisWheelsandLilacs · 06/01/2026 20:56

Someone drove into the back of me once and wrote off my car exactly because I slammed my brakes on out of nowhere. But because a child ran out into the road. Entirely his fault for not keeping a safe stopping distance.

LiveLuvLaugh · 06/01/2026 20:56

Not your fault - if he drove into the back of you he’s liable. I’ve been rear ended 6x. His passenger is not an independent witness. Just tell your insurance company.

2026x · 06/01/2026 20:56

PistachioTiramisu · 06/01/2026 19:55

Why is everybody 'shaking' from a mild experience these days? You were OK - thankfully. Just get a grip.

To be fair, having someone crash into the back of you is pretty alarming. In a situation like this I suspect the person behind expected her to go and she didn’t move off (often how people get rear ended at junctions) so he may have accelerated into the back of her with a fair bit of force. It’s shocking.