Family holiday when pregnant

[MamaPlantlove]

AIBU to not want to go on a family holiday with 2 kids when I’ll be 7 months pregnant??

DH is getting arsey that I’m not thrilled at his suggestion of doing an abroad holiday with our 2.5 year old son and his 10 year old daughter. I’ll be around 7 months pregnant at the time he’s suggesting it (needs to be in the school holidays).

As much as DH says he’ll plan it…..the prep and planning will fall on me. I KNOW that I’ll be the one dealing with a rowdy toddler at airports, transfers, flights etc because the responsibility naturally falls into me&toddler and DH&stepdaughter.

DH thinks a holiday would be entirely sunshine and rainbows. I’m visualising running after the toddler around a slippery pool while I’m the size of a beach ball, sweating like a pig and feeling gross in swimwear. Pregnancy with toddler was fine health wise but I felt NOTHING like myself and I know how I’ll feel time around but with added stress of another child.

I have suggested to him that we do a centerparks/haven or similar instead but he’s adamant he wants a “proper holiday with the kids” before new baby arrives.

HELP am I being unreasonable xx

Yup. My DH is like this, all
sunshine and rainbows because he is happy to let me do the hard stressful parenting work. I know now when to say ‘no’ and absolutely not give an inch because the result is: me stressed/him: bemused and annoying.

That must have been awful 😞 we had an early loss prior to my son and can’t even imagine it happening in a foreign country, I’m so sorry. I’d definitely be worried about going into early labour on holiday and trying to navigate the healthcare. Absolute nightmare fuel.

Yes, every pregnant woman is EXACTLY the same as you, eh?

Me: running around after 2 overexcitable kids, tearing my hair out
Him: sipping a pina colada by the pool
🙅🏼‍♀️

better drama queen tendencies that keep her and kids safe than bitchy tendencies just cos you saw an opportunity to bring someone down

I love holidays and am lucky enough to go on several a year but I wouldn’t have gone full stop at 7 months pregnant with or without a child. I don’t think I’d get the most out of my holiday. I like to walk, sight see, do boat tours, sun bathe, drink some margaritas etc, but being in potential 30 degrees heat and pregnant those would not be fun.

YANBU

i never wanted to travel abroad when pregnant. We did British holidays those years. Once to a cottage in Yorkshire and once to Centre Parcs

your DH is being an arsehole. .

Did you get a medal. 🥇

He hasn’t lost his mind. He knows full well it won’t be relaxing or fun for you - but he’s sulking because he thinks you shouldn’t ruin his fun and relaxing holiday! He doesn’t care that his 7 month pregnant wife would have a stressful and unrelaxing time……. as long has he doesn’t miss his holiday.

Absolutely put your foot down. If he pushes the subject again, then ask him outright “If it would be so fun and relaxing then you would be more than happy to take both kids on your own. If you aren’t, then why not? Is it because it wouldn’t be fun/relaxing for you?!”

Honestly it's just not worth the worry. If you wanted to go that would be one thing, but if you don't you should absolutely stand your ground.

I probably wouldn't fly that far on in pregnancy and you don't know how the pregnancy is going to go. You may book and end up not being able to go. If your keen for a holiday before baby, id probably move it forward and not take the 10 year old. She seems she's having plenty other holidays and it's ok for her to not always go with you on holidays

DONT DO IT OP!! I was pregnant last year and went on holiday when I was 16 weeks with my DH, DS (4) and PIL. Honestly the worst holiday I’ve ever been on. I was so exhausted I didn’t enjoy it, then I spent the whole time worrying something would happen and we were far away from home (despite it being a UK holiday). Also felt guilty I couldn’t do some things with my DS or the rest of the group, I felt like a burden to be honest. O would much rather have stayed at home. I definitely couldn’t have done it at 7 months. I also went on a hen weekend when I was 7 months and that was hell as well!