To not want my weight loss commented on?

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I work part time, and another colleague also works part time so we only see one another once a week.

I have lost a lot of weight this year, and colleague comments every time. I think she’s trying to be nice but it’s making me so self conscious as I know she will say something every time.

AIBU in wanting this to stop? I don’t really know how to ask!

I sympathise. I lost a lot of weight 30 years ago (after being overweight all my life) and hated it when people commented on it. I've kept it off but it has been a constant effort to do so.

It surprises many of those who've never struggled with their weight that some of us who have really don't want attention drawing to it - even when we're successfully losing it!

Not being unreasonable at all, and she is odd and rude. I would try to have something prepared for next time she says something. Something like "yes, I have lost weight, but I'd rather you didn't keep mentioning it as it's not something I'm wanting to talk about, thank you".
Could that work?

You’re not unreasonable at all. I thought it was considered rude to comment on people’s bodies. She obviously doesn’t know that or doesn’t care. I think you might be creating another problem if you ask her not to comment on your weight loss in that she may assume it is caused by illness if you don’t want to talk about it. She may well ask you what is wrong or try to find out from other colleagues. It could get messy.

think I would just say that I had lost weight but I’m not losing any more,

I am losing more though - I am still overweight (BMI 29) though obviously a lot smaller than I was! I have been quite open about the fact I’m dieting, it’s just I literally can’t walk in a room without her mentioning how lovely and slim I look (and I don’t!)

It's even worse when they insist on knowing HOW????

And then don't seem willing to accept "by putting less food in my face" as an adequate explanation. And insist some more...

I’m with you OP. Family keep commenting and it makes me feel pressured to keep it off or gaining again. I also feel weirdly objectified.

happy for people to say I look good and leave the weight out of it.

I would just tell her directly, as you’ve explained it here. It makes you feel uncomfortable as it’s all the time and that you’d prefer it if she didn’t. You can say that you appreciate she’s trying to be nice, but it’s something you’re not comfortable with now.

‘Thanks Mary. I’ve actually made a New Year resolution to stop talking about it so please help me stick to that?’