To give a child a day off school when it’s snowing

[TheSparklyShoe]

Snow day today but DS comp is open. It’s a ten minute walk to his school all on the flat, Ex text DS telling him to stay home. AIBU in that he should attempt to get to school? He’s missed loads of school since September.

Of course he should go if the school is open. What will his excuse be if absent?

Get to school. Your ex is ridiculous

A 10 minute walk in the snow is fine, I’d encourage child to go to school.

It's snow, not lava.

Why should he stay at home? Has your child a medical condition that would cause issues?

I can't believe this. FFS

'Attempt to go to school'

Your ex is suggesting your son can't walk 10 minutes in the snow to school.
It's not an Arctic blizzard with 6 ft snow drifts.

When I was a child I used to walk a mile to school in snow aged 7 and back again at the end of the day.

Get a grip- both of you.

Tell him to go, your ex is being ridiculous

Yes, I think he should go to school. If you’re anything like us, it’s been snow since Friday. They’ve had time for snowball fights and fun. If it’s safe to walk (we walked 6.5 miles across high moorland in snow this weekend 🤷🏻‍♀️), then he should go in. My dc’s friends’ parents seem to let them stay off for everything - still tired on Monday from a sleepover Friday night, nervous about something happening 2 weeks from now, didn’t want to ride the bus alone? Stay home. Mine go in. Now we probably wouldn’t be able to get there in snow because we live rurally 15 minutes drive from school. But if we can, they go.

Do you work? Your ex is probably just trying to sabatage your job.

Nope! He’s in Dads this morning and his Dad is in work, I’m the bad guy now making him go to school. I agree with all of you. Absolutely no reason why he shouldn’t go today. Ex would probably tell the school it is too treacherous to walk but DS was out in it yesterday with no issues 🙈

So why are you even asking?

Oh your friends parents sound like my ex. One example was getting back from a holiday at 11am and giving them the following day off as they were tired. Gives him days off at the drop of a hat!

I don't understand your first line here- He's in Dad's and his dad is at work?
So is he supposed to stay at home on his own all day?
How old is he?

Your ex s sort of parent that teachers just LOVE.

Can he not see how he is harming your son's education and also making him into some snowflake?

He’s just turned 14.

Of course he should go if open and safe to get there.

For goodness sake, of course he should go. I send mine off to the train in heavy snow. Wrap up, boots on. They had walks both ends too.

He's 14!
FFS.

Tell him to stop being a lazy arse using excuses and get off his arse and go

You are going to have a problem 18 year old who can't be arsed to get a job. And Dad won't want to let him stay at that point.

This isn't about snow.

Can your ex support him when he leaves school?

He’s 14 and missed loads of school since September, if he carries on like this what does he think will happen after GCSEs?

I would text the Ex if I were you and remind him that once your DS is in your care- your instructions are to be followed…not his and if he could back off and stop undermining that would be great.

If ex can get work then obviously DS can get to school. What is ex’s reasoning? That it’s too cold or that DS should be able to play in the snow (surely bit old for that at 14)?

It’s a bit of snow yabu. One year it snowed for 6 weeks straight and came up to ds7 at the time knees he still went to school. 😂

He said it’s icy and treacherous on the pavements/roads. The snow has fallen overnight so it’s fresh and powdery, I’m not disputing that it’s hazardous on the roads though.

most are just getting back to school, so it would be ridiculous to miss that. if it's only 10 mins on flat i would say he has it easy; years ago me and lots of kids had to walk miles on hills etc but shutting schools was unheard of.

Of course he should be in school if he can get there.

No reason for him not to go! Won't it be you who gets pulled up on the absence, not your ex?