DM has her issues, the biggest of which being a drink problem which she will not admit to and over the years we’ve seen a nasty side to her when she’s been drinking. We’ve given up trying to get her to admit she has a problem, and although she still drinks (a lot) things have calmed down in recent years as she now lives alone and doesn’t have anyone to argue with when drunk.
However recently ‘D’B has been staying with her, I’m not sure why as I do not speak to him. He has a nasty streak and is a drug addict, I also suspect he deals, although I do not have any proof of this.
Last night ‘D’B pushed DM and she fell against a washing machine breaking 3 ribs in the process, she is now in hospital. Me and my other siblings assumed that it had been a drunken argument between the two of them that had got out of hand. I don’t say this to excuse what he did in any way, but because it might have muddied the waters re pressing charges against him.
It turns out that ‘D’B actually filmed the lead up and the actual assault and sent it to one of my siblings in the bizarre belief that it explained and excused his actions. I have watched the recording and I feel sick.
‘D’B shows what look like prescription drugs and a crack pipe as evidence of what DM has driven him to. He then berates her, clearly trying to provoke a reaction, accuses her of bullying him and starts smashing cups on the floor. At this point DM pushes him, I’m not sure whether to get past him or to get him to stop. Again not excusing the violence but it was a light push but she is late 60s and not in the best of health and he is a big lad.
After he pushed her, DM is obviously in pain and is moaning and crying while he accuses her of lying, shouts at her, threatens more violence, lightly slaps her face and pushes her head. He then threatens to smash her phone unless she apologizes. Which she does.
From my other siblings I understand that he was arrested but let go without charge, however the police have not seen this video. He later turned up at the hospital demanding the house key and shouting abuse. I think that enough is enough and I want to give this video to the police. My other siblings are worried that DM will get into trouble for the push and the fact that drugs were in her house, even though ‘D’B clearly states they are his. I know DM won’t press charges or speak against him so will the police be able to do anything if I give them the video?
I’m going to speak to a solicitor friend tomorrow for advice but wondered if anyone here had any advice to offer on whether the police can do anything based on the video.