Group leader a bit dry

[MyLemonOtter]

I'm part of a single parent group with a well known organisation. The leader isnt that welcoming apart from the bare min and I've been told that people find her quite cold. I do as well.

I know she's a single mum of two children and she's burnt bridges with me (being rude in a what's app, not interested when 121 etc).

I don't know if I should say something to the main organisation - just that she could be struggling herself or just feedback that the leader isn't that friendly. She is a volunteer. I would volunteer but she's burnt bridges with me and I find her quite negative etc.

Aibu to keep quiet?

No, I wouldn't mention it, unless you genuinely think she is really struggling/is stressed. If it's just that you don't like her or think she's a bit cold, then no. She's a volunteer, and is no doubt doing her best.

I would volunteer but - if you are not willing to step up, then I don't really think you can complain about the job that someone else is doing voluntarily. I'm a volunteer, and if someone complained about me while being unwilling to do the job themselves, I would not be impressed (unless I was doing something dangerous).

I would make a real effort to befriend her (you can always repair burnt bridges). You might find she is okay when you get to know her. Could you have said something to upset her?

The main org won't give a crap that you find her a bit cold OP. They'll only care if someone is being inappropriate or there's a safeguarding question. Sounds like you just don't click. Does it matter provided she does what's required of her?