One of two things is currently happening and I need some perspective on if I’m being petty here!
Either my ex (we share 2 pre-teens) is working cash in hand and not declaring to HMRC and receiving benefits by claiming only working 16 hours a week PAYE (he has other children and a partner who isn’t working), or is choosing to not tell me about the additional work so that maintenance is only based off of 16 hours. CSA aren’t involved, maintenance has been agreed between us for a number of years but was always based on the online calculators. He’d always worked full time up until about a year ago when all of a sudden left his long term job to work part time elsewhere. Of course, there could be circumstances I don’t know about, But the additional work outside the 16 hours has been 100% confirmed to be true.
I’m in a fortunate position that I don’t rely on the money anymore - it goes straight into the kids savings accounts. But they could have significantly more savings if he was truthful.
Would I be unreasonable to take the nuclear option and report this? There is no talking to him - if I mention it, he will make things hell. Or other suggestions on what I should do - if anything?