Matching pjs

[Lostandfoundme]

For Christmas my partner’s ex wife bought him ‘daddy’ pajamas and herself ‘mummy’ pjs and their child ‘son’ pjs. I find this a bit disrespectful but I’m probably BUR, right? I feel sorry for her even though she ended the marriage and I understand that she’s seeking the reassurance that they are still the parents of their son even though I’m now in his life too. I just think I wouldn’t have bought my ex those pjs because I’d feel embarrassed.

We’re a blended family with children on both sides. Their son is 3.

Depending where she got them they can come as family sets for a set price. And he is his childs day. Where they together xmas eve. Does your partner care

Surely this is about their 3 year old son rather than it being to do with yourself? They are his mummy and daddy and he is their son, that won’t ever change.

I actually think that’s fine. It means DS can match with whichever parent he happens to be staying with at the time.

Yes it’s odd! I would laugh it off, but be aware of what else she’ll do…..

You are already a “blended” family with a 3 year old? Poor bloody child to have adults that would think that is ok.

I think it’s a nice thing for a 3 year old. Presumably she isn’t sleeping at your house so the 3 aren’t wearing them simultaneously.

What do you think is disrespectful about this?

He didn’t tell me. His son did, he probably knows it’s a little weird but other people are right, it is more for the kid probably. It doesn’t really affect me I guess. They are the mum and dad and I have my own kids and a great relationship with my ex too. I am BUR.

So the kid got to have matching pajamas with their parent at both houses, sounds lovely! It was a nice thing for a kid at Christmas, don’t make yourself the arsehole.

That’s why I vent on here 😂. I’ve no intention of saying anything unless he starts wearing them for every video call like they’re still a family. Then I’ll be saying something about it.