Ex has a new girlfriend - I think since August- maybe July. She met our young teens in November. Second meet she gave one £30 cash to take shopping - apparently she had paid for a couple of fair rides for my other when she first met her so wanted to give something to the other. I discussed with my ex and he said he didn’t know about the cash and agreed it wasn’t appropriate.
A week later it was my youngest’s bday. He brought round a gift from his girlfriend for her which was worth I think around £30. I thought it was fine but then she opened the card and £30 cash fell out. As she opened it, he said ‘oh (name) I told her not to’ and again said he didn’t know. I told him I was concerned about the amount of gifts given so early (this one being worth £60+) but more so that he said he didn’t know/had asked her not to. He isn’t always truthful though so it’s very likely he did know. I have no idea.
For Xmas they told me she bought them hair straighteners but then my youngest called me and showed me that she had bought them a karaoke machine to share (or her older son had who they’ve never met- I’m not sure exactly) and a box of makeup each, a pair of branded leggings each and GHD hair straighteners each.
I have nothing to compare to but it makes me uneasy that she has only met them a few times and seems to be showering them with expensive gifts. Am I overthinking it?