To think “chosen family” sometimes get romanticised beyond reality?

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Chosen family is beautiful but some people use it to avoid repairing real relationships or doing emotional work.

AIBU?

What's "chosen family" ?

I think your example is a bit vague to be honest. Surely every situation is very different no?

Yes, every situation is different. I’m not suggesting chosen family is inherently unhealthy. What I’m getting at is when the language of “chosen family” is used to avoid difficult repair, accountability or boundaries in existing relationships, rather than as a genuine addition to someone’s life.

You must have a specific example in mind and perhaps your theory works for them. In other cases, people’s relationships with their families are so complicated and painful that they are fully entitled to chose their own family.

Hahaha, hello sister-in-law / mother-in-law. The reason my husband isn't speaking to you isn't to do with 'chosen family', it's because you're rude, interfering and hypocritical.

Seriously OP, what's all this about? You're being cryptic. Someone in your family not speaking to you?

Hello AI Bot.

Tell me more about why you are asking?

I think OP is bitter because someone has cut her out of her life.

I don't think it's used to avoid working on family relationships, as ime it's most popular as a concept amongst those for whom family estrangement is an unavoidable reality, so yabu in that respect. But I agree it's ridiculously romanticised. The person I know who is most vocal about it let me down in a flash when it suited her. The problem with 'chosen family' is that it basically just means friends, and unsurprisingly some are more chosen than others.

I don't know why pp are being so snippy, mind you. If you don't know what something means just google it fgs.

Surely our partner or children are our chosen family too. I don’t think anyone is using them to avoid repairing other relationships.