to ask for my own hotel room on business trip?

[Notmollybutdolly]

Hi. Work for a huge corporate company with a conference taking place in a few weeks.
travel will be the day before, by train, and staying over for training the following day travelling back that night.
work expects us to share a room with someone, and 90% sure it’ll be someone I’ve never met before. Even if it was a colleague, I still would refuse.
AIBU to have emailed them to request them to book me a separate room?
I didn’t give an excuse, only because I feel like I don’t need an excuse for my own room?

DH in the building trade worked away for years and was always expected to share. Me in the corporate world has never had to share (and I wouldn’t share!).

We once did a whole department offsite and had the hotel exclusively. We had a choice of two hotels when planning, the much much nicer hotel was about 4 bedrooms short. We went out to the department and asked if anyone would want to volunteer to share but made it clear if people didn’t want to we would use the other hotel. Some people who were friends outside of work offered to share and we got them all a bottle of wine as a thank you as well.

YANBU. I've stayed away for work lots of times over the years and not once has anyone ever suggested that I share a room.

Science conferences were always like this. I point blank refused to share. Or got out of going somehow. Not unreasonable at all.

In what way? The responses seem the same to me

Not a work thing, but a few years ago I shared with my sister. We get along fine, but haven't shared a room since we both lived at home and I slept worse than I usually do when in a strange bed. I wouldn't do that again. I absolutely wouldn't do it with a stranger.

Don't refuse without giving a reason. Explanation why it may be necessary to share. Not the point-blank 'No' as on this thread.

Why should you have to make excuses?

I wouldn’t go if I couldn’t have my own room.

This is a good fallback if you get any problems.

better than your farting suggestion @Notmollybutdolly

I work for a mid sized not for profit company who are very tight but they always book separate rooms for staff in hotels. Absolutely unacceptable to expect you to share.

Real women ?

I would be absolutely amazed if your HR are aware and have given this the green light.

I thought that - no way would my HR allow it, probably even if it was requested! It would be a flat out no from them.

I would not share, I prefer own room even when with friends! The only people I would share is mum or sister

Even the NHS on a budget dont make us share! Its normallly a premier inn
or travel lodge but our own room!

Interestingly this has just come up for me. The default is a room each but if anyone is happy to share, they’d be paid an additional allowance per night.

Which raises the question about how much is this supposed to be saving ? If you have to pay extra to get people to sign up ?

I have made a possibly fatal assumption that cost saving is the reason here. It might be some form of enforced team building.

No way would I share. I wouldn't even share with a colleague friend however much I liked them. I think sending a message saying that you are uncomfortable with this

Yanbu. Although it does make me realize once again what a different world education is from the corporate world. School residentials typically involve sharing (one was 6 adults to a room, with bunk beds). On duty until the last child is asleep (and awake with the first ones up). No extra pay. It's just expected you will do unless you have a very good reason not too.

Hell no to sharing. There are actually a couple of colleagues I'd be happy to share with but generally, imagine the kinds of issues you could get from colleagues sharing. Yep, that. That, and oh yeah, that too.

I wouldn’t entertain the idea, but I know some of the younger staff would happily have some extra cash! I think it was an additional allowance of £30pp per night. And so probably not a lot of savings at all!

Please don’t, just say “I am not sharing, if I have to share I am not going”

I worked for nearly 40 years for a very well known corporate, and whilst we didn’t get wine with our evening dinner, the tight bastards, we did always get our own room. Ok, they had approved hotels in the booking list and it didn’t include the Intercontinental at my grade 😄 but I never had to share. Rather a Travel Lodge on my own than a Crowne Plaza shared.

This.

Absolutely unacceptable, and I’m shocked any company is still expecting this. I’ve been travelling for business for 30 years with companies of different sizes, and none has ever asked or expected me to share a room with a colleague.

DIL had to share with the head teacher on a ski trip, hated every second. Would have gladly shared with the kids.

It's completely inappropriate and unreasonable for them to ask you to share a bedroom with a stranger. Speak to HR - I'm sure there are rules about this.

I had to share with my line manager never again!!!!