Worried about 12 month DD’s lack of milestones

[CheeseSandwich1]

DD just turned 1.

She won’t crawl or move around in anyway apart from spinning herself round and reaching for things. She can bare weight if she’s held upright but doesn’t enjoy it.

She won’t hold her bottle but will pick up food to feed herself and also toys. She has just started to point at things.

She doesn’t say any words. No Mama or Dada, just occasional babbles.She’s also very small, 16lbs and in below the 10th percentile.

The health visitor didn’t seem concerned but I am. She’s so far behind developmentally compared to my son, who by 12 months was walking, saying words, using a spoon etc.

I know all babies grow at different rates but does this seem concerning? If I’m honest she doesn’t take that much interest in anything and it’s really starting to worry me! She is constantly played with, goes to nursery, has interactions with lots of family and friends, I feel we’re doing everything right!

There is quite a wide window of ‘normal’. Have you had the 12 month check with the HV? If you feel like she’s not making any progress I would get back in touch. She’s probably fine but it might give you peace of mind.

Does she point at objects ‘with intention’ (from what you have observed) if so, that’s considered communication and is a positive sign

She’s had her 12 month check.

She’s just started to point. For instance, last week we were at a cafe and a dog came in and she was pointing at the dog.

I’m just worried as she doesn’t really enjoy ‘playing’ as such. We got her such a wide range of Christmas presents to try and encourage her and she’s not really interested.

Sounds like there are lots of positives @CheeseSandwich1 , but I don’t think a mother’s instincts should be dismissed, so if you would feel better booking a follow up with HV for, say, 2 months time, then do that.
But if it’s any consolation, my eldest wasn’t very interested in toys at that age, and we really had to force her to try all sorts to get her to crawl - she had no interest! But she caught up and soon there was no difference vs her peers.

Do you have any worries about any specific conditions, or is it just in comparison to your DS?

I agree with the poster above: a mother’s instinct is valuable and you should follow it up. Be as insistent as you can with the GP/HV.

At the same time, I know we worry a lot about our babies and perspective can be helpful. My DD (14 months) is the opposite of yours in some ways, and I’ve worried that she’s going to have behavioural problems. She’s walking, energetic, interested in everything, but also very demanding, often frustrated, loud, doesn’t stop, loses it if she can’t have what she wants, running around, throwing things, not really talking just babbling. She the only kid in nursery who gets strapped into her chair because she tries to climb out or tip it backwards. She turns her plate upside down. I have had concerns.

But else assures me she seems perfectly fine. And I think they’d not say exactly that if something might be amiss.

Have you spoken to friends and family for perspective? Does she go to nursery?