To ask what age you would say is no longer dying young

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Although hard still I feel from 80 onwards it’s expected

A lot depends on the person involved. My Dad will be 80 soon and he is still fit, active and skiing!

Yet MIL is 6yrs younger but looks/acts 15yrs older than him.

Mid-late 80s seems standard for my family so anything pre-75 would be earlier than expected, but I'd say 'died young' is anyone 45 and under.

Unfortunately for me this gives the expectation that my 3 living grandparents will die in the next few years, however none of them seem 'old' despite some health issues they are all fiercely independent and active in life.

My grandparents are 92 and 93 and taking care of themselves and popping off to the shops and the chemists when needed.

I would say dying below the age of 80 is ‘young’ but many people go on to live a lot longer than that these days don’t they.

I’d say 60. These days, it’s on the younger side to die, but there are enough people with cancer and chronic conditions that someone dying at 60 doesn’t sound shocking.

If someone is late 70s, I wouldn’t class them as being too young to die.

But the average lifespan for men in the UK is 79.

It is very odd to me to say that it is unexpected and too early unless someone is aged 85+

I’d say 80+ - but if we are talking family members I think it can depend on your own age too. I lost my Mum when she was 75 but because she had me later on in life I was still in my 30s so felt as though I’d lost a significant amount of time with her.

My MIL is now 85 but as she had my DH when she was in her early 20s he’s had so much more time with his Mum.

I’m shocked 79 is life expectancy for men. My dad is 72 and seems young still… I’d say 85+ is expected.

My DDad is 80 this year and still fit and active. It would be a shock if he died soon despite his age.

A friend of my parents turns 100 tomorrow.

80

I think 75 and under is seen as early death but agree with others, 80 I think

My gran died of a massive stroke completely out of the blue at 86. While it wasn't too young to die it was still a horrible shock

My family have lost a few people young. My grans brothers both died young. One in a car crash. My uncle died in his 40s

My grandpa died of bowel cancer when he was 61. Diagnosed and dead in 6 months

I'm only five years younger than he was when he died so I think that was definitely too young - and tragic. Because now he would probably have been screened and saved

UK life expectancy is 79 male and 83 female so anything under 70 id consider young.

I'm 53 and I'd not be too keen on being here longer than 30 yrs

I'm surprised that so many people think of anything under 80 as dying young when the average lifespan of men in England is only 79 years. It's even lower than that in Scotland, 76 years.

When I hear of people passing under 60 I feel the shock of "oh so young!".
60-75 I think of as a shame and that they've been cheated out of too much time, but I wouldn't think of it as dying young.

I believe a death at under 75 is officially counted as a premature death. Though what we as individuals might consider premature is another matter.

I definitely think my grandpa who died of bowel cancer at 61 died far too young - particularly as my gran lived until 86. It was really hard for her. She was 55 when he died.

At 75+ I hope I have a another 25 years of healthy living.

80

I think it all depends my mum died 62 and that was horrific. My dad 78 that was ok .my mum I had a great relationship with .my dad ..I didn't even grieve I was like ok then more shit to sort .

Hmm 75+. Early 70s I probably wouldn't say they were gone too soon but it feels too close to 60s (which feels scarily young) to comfortably say they lived a good, long life!

I agree with you that 61 is far too young, that must have been tragic for your gran.

I guess we are all thinking of our personal experiences when we answer this question. I was thinking of people I know who died in their 30s or 40s, they seemed like relatively young people still.

But I agree that losing a loved one in their 60s is tragic. It's tragic at any age but in their 60s is cruel and unfair.

50plus

Anything below 80 would feel comparatively young to me and it’s definitely younger than expected.

But 80 (or even 50) isn’t „young“. Dying young would mean below 40 (or maybe 45, although that’s dying middle-aged) to me personally.

edit: I would describe dying at 45 (50, 55, 75 etc…) as dying too young and unexpectedly young. But it’s still not an age I’d consider to be young.

Of course. I lost my uncle in his 40s and I lost a friend from work at 32. He died of a brain disorder and his brother died of the same thing a year later. Awful

I was 9 when my grandpa died and at that age you think someone is old - but he wasn't really