My Partner and I recently separated. We have three kids and am focused on concentrating on the children. Their father isn’t a very nice man, has said some horrible nasty things about me. He’s that kind of person who seems to have two personalities (one minute he’s nice, they next he’s horrible). To not get into too much narrating, my family now don’t like him and possibly his family don’t like me (apparently it’s what happens when people separate).
I guess what am asking is am I weird to not hate as i feel it’s not worth my energy and not got it in me? Am I also stupid to think that people shouldn’t involve or should stop their young children from being involved in relationship stuff that they don’t even understand? Why I say this is my brother in law was saying to me how my 16 year old niece hates the ornament that my ex made for her parents and didn’t want it on the x-mas tree and that she was saying how they shouldn’t allow me to go back home (still live with the ex as I wait for help with housing). I understand the feelings but do I need to be told about these things? Break ups are sensitive especially when they involve children and I am still working through stuff. I just don’t want the noise and the hate that everyone around me seems to be interested in.
Am I weird? Should I be hating?