To go on holiday with my friends?

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I have been with my boyfriend for a few years. Both in our 30s, no kids. I’ve always went away with my friends for holidays. This year I’ve been away with several different friends at different times. I usually go away with one or two of them at a time, sometimes men, sometimes women, sometimes a mix. There is only one straight man amongst the people I’d go away with.

I’m going on a city break with this man and another woman next month. My boyfriend could not care less. But last week I was out with friends and one said she was surprised I hadn’t stopped going away with friends, and a couple agreed with her, saying I ‘didn’t have to’ go away with friends because I’m not single.

AIBU to think it’s perfectly reasonable to keep holidaying with friends? I was surprised at how strongly my other friends felt that these holidays were somehow weird and that my boyfriend was bound to be unhappy, despite him never having said this.

I think it’s a great way to holiday! Keep doing it!

I’m 52 and go on long weekends with my girlfriends! Leave DH and kids at home.

Sounds ideal. Your friend is being a tit

I don’t think I’ve ever had a unanimous result! I didn’t think I was being unreasonable, but some of my friends were so adamant that my boyfriend must be jealous that sometimes it’s other men I’m away with.

Your friends would hate me, I go away with friends AND solo travel leaving my partner at home!

I’m another one who has always holidayed with different groups of friends and alone.

I can’t see the problem.

Absolutely fine. I think it’s really healthy to maintain parts of the life you had before being coupled up. You only get one life so do what you enjoy. And don’t listen to others opinions on it so much.

I go away with friends frequently leaving DH at home, he also goes away with his friends too. One of my best friends is a straight guy, DH knows it’s platonic and there is no issue with me going away with just my male friend either. I think it’s very healthy that me and DH are happy with each other to do our own thing, we also have lots of trips together and we are very happy even after twenty years together.
I’d find it suffocating if it was any other way.

It's fine to holiday with friends. Once you have kids and if funds are limited then it's a different story.

Exactly how I feel. It’s as if they think I’m treating my partner awfully but he couldn’t care less. They’ve all been in relationships for a long time whereas I’ve spent most of my life single. I do wonder if they’ve assumed I was only holidaying with friends because I didn’t have a partner instead of just enjoying the holidays.

We don’t want kids so I expect I’ll be holidaying with my friends for as long as they want to.

I am in my 60s now and I go away solo a few times a year. I'm into Roman and Greek history and no one else is, including Him indoors! i thjnk he secretly loves having the house to himself. Its not a problem at all.

I don't think it's healthy to drop all your friends once you have a partner.

I find their attitude bizarre. I always feel a bit sorry for couples who live in each others pockets and do everything together. I don’t find it sweet or romantic. At some point one of them is going to die! It’s a fact of life! The single one left will not know what to do with themselves!

Totally agree. My friends do have friends and social lives, but often involving their partner too. It was as if they thought my partner must be wild with jealousy and seemed sceptical he was totally fine.