New Year’s Eve with partner

[mammot23]

Does your partner kiss, hug you at 12 ?
mine didn’t and I’m feeling really shit about it

Why on earth didn't you just go and hug and kiss your partner instead of waiting for them to initiate it like some kind of test to fail?

No.
If i want a hug, I'll go and hug him.
But probably I won't.

Wasn’t a test to fail at all, we were in bed with our kids waiting for the fire works to start I got up and said to him come and look over here you’ll see them better, he didn’t bother to even get up !

No we didn't and I Couldn't care less.

If I was comfortable in bed, I wouldn't get up either. Your dh obviously thought he either had a good enough view or wasn't that bothered and thats ok.

If felt you needed a hug and kiss, you could have gone over to him in bed

No. I find the scheduled kiss at midnight really cringy. Even if nobody else is around. I was already in bed asleep and DH was still downstairs with friends. I'd have been pretty pissed off if he'd woken me up.

Having a great day on new years day today should hopefully take your mind off it.

What plans have you got for today?

No but nor do i kiss him, I dont stand on ceremony and wait for an invitation

No, we were both dozy at midnight so mumbled happy new year at each other then rolled over and went to sleep.

Nope. Did kiss my kids though but that’s because they were next to me. We were all comfortable watching the fireworks.

Is it part of a bigger problem? If all else is well in the relationship I don't imagine this would matter.
I was asleep at 10, husband slept about 11, neither of us is fussed about NYE. But if it matters to do did you communicate it to him?

Yes we were watching Jools Holland with prosecco so we clinked glasses and kissed and said Happy New Year. Why didn't you just go over to him and give him a kiss? Why did he have to come to you?

I didn’t leave my bed for the fireworks either, too tired. Saw some from bed and went back to sleep. It’s the same every year. They really need some innovation in the fireworks trade.

Nope… couldn’t be less bothered about it though, I was in bed reading and he was downstairs gaming (ds in bed). I did send a text to say happy new year. That’s normal for us though- been married 16 years. If it bothers you then you should say something.

Yes but not in an exhibitionist way, had lots of hugs and kisses from others too

Is that a thing, to kiss at midnight? Don't think I've ever done that with a partner.

I kissed everyone in the room at midnight, then sand auld lang syne. HNY

Sang. Obviously

Yes - but we’d had dinner together and played a couple of games and had just put the telly on to hear Big Ben chiming, so he was standing right next to me.

If he’d been in bed and I’d been standing at the window watching fireworks I wouldn’t have expected him to get out of bed to make a point of kissing me.

Yes! We had dinner with our 20 year old & her boyfriend earlier, they went to a party with friends.

Dh & i lit the fire & lots of candles / tealights. We had drinks & a cheeseboard

We were watching a movie but paused it to countdown to midnight. We opened a bottle of cremant & clinked glasses, wished each other a happy new year. Then we had a long hug & kiss. We do this every year & we're together 27 years this year! We are very affectionate with each other though so this is v normal for us.

2025 was an incredibly challenging year for us for several reasons, mainly financial when a big deal fell through for dh & it kicked our ass. We've managed to stick together & turn things around & we've ended the year on a FAR better note.

We hugged & kissed & told each other how much we love each other & that nothing could break us.

Even though we don't generally like going out on NYE, we always celebrate it together at home & we always stay up. And we always kiss & hug.

I'm sorrry you feel sad about it. Do you think there's a bit of a lack of intimacy / closeness? Maybe 2026 could be the year to fix this if you both want it

Kinda think this is a non event, unless there is a massive drip feed coming

Sounds like this is not the issue but maybe general relationship issues are making this feel shitter?