Really minor but irritating to me husband not cooking

[Notmotherofflowergirls]

I do almost all of the cooking and I have no issue with this.

Since September I have not been able to cook on one evening a week so husband (who I love and I am very happy with) is responsible for the evening meal but instead of cooking he will either get a takeaway or will text and say that he and one of the kids are in a chain restaurant and do I and other child want to join?

The result is the kids think he is Superman and Fun Dad.

Not against junk food but not every week. Reasonably comfortable but it’s a waste of money.

I think he should cook.

Yes I know in the scheme of things this isn’t a real problem.

Could you double up on one of the other days so he only has to reheat and add rice/pasta or suggest quick and easy meals everyone likes? Or get in pizzas to stick in the oven. I guess if he has to go shopping too, he might think he may as well just get it ready done. He perhaps doesn’t even realise how much it is going to cost across the year.

Unpopular opinion but YABU. If the kids enjoy it, why not? I do all the cooking in my house as well, our load isn't unequal at all, I just am much better at cooking than my husband. He does the tasks I hate and am bad at as well. This isn't a hill to die on IMO.

What does he do that you’re bad at and don’t want to do?

I don't know the OP's financial situation, but it is possible that they can easily afford a restaurant or takeaway once a week. I actually hope for the sake of the economy that someone can, it gets very depressing hearing about how people only eat out twice a year because of the cost of living crisis. It's actually nice to hear about people who are still spending money!

Laundry!! And before anyone says that that is less than trouble than cooking, not to me it isn't.
He also does more hoovering than I do, plus all the DIY type minor jobs, empties the bins etc. We both think we're getting a good deal. To be fair, we are childfree and I do get where the OP is coming from to an extent, but I don't think that it is quite the big deal that some posters are making out. There's nothing wrong with a weekly treat IMO.

Yep it’s a thing with many men - they only like event or high praise cooking. So the bbq, Xmas turkey or elaborate feast that people will praise is worth their time but Monday healthy tea for kids isn’t

A very similar situation here.
DH is supposed to do tea once a week for the dc. This is pretty much always pizza/chicken nuggets and chips. Occasionally pesto pastas I have had to nag to get him to include a vegetable. He still sometimes doesn’t. And often his work means that he doesn’t do this anyway.
If there is any other day/situation that requires him to feed the kids it is invariably a meal out, either at the pub or McDonald’s/kfc.

He CAN cook - he makes an excellent roast. But he has never bothered to even try really at anything else, and most definitely sees feeding the kids as my job. (I do ‘only’ work p/t)

Its infuriating.

She said that they’re reasonably comfortable, but it’s a waste of money and she doesn’t want to eat junk food every week. It’s not just about being able to afford it.

I agree that sheer junk like McDonald's once a week isn't great, but a pub meal or Nandos isn't so bad. That won't go down well on here where people are obsessed with clean eating, but I don't see an issue myself. I also don't think that the husband not cooking is bad, as long as he doesn't expect the OP to do all the housework. I don't see an issue with couples having dedicated jobs.

Is this coming out of his personal money or the joint account?

What everyone needs to remember is that parents are modelling relationships to their children. This is how this man’s sons will behave and what his daughters will expect.

Get him a subscription to Hello Fresh and let him and the kids have a fun time cooking together!!

He doesn’t need to be great at cooking to make a simple dinner. OP doesn’t say he has a disability, he seems to have plenty of money and presumably they have a functional kitchen if OP can cook in it. Given that I’d say it’s pretty feeble he can’t cook a dinner one night a week, “good cook” or otherwise. It’s not like he’s got to meal plan the week and come up with a vast repertoire of master chef level meals.

Maybe he should batch cook and freeze his amazing curry and then he can just heat it up on Thursdays….

Hello Fresh is no better than a takeaway.