Is this a thing - single and wanting more children?

[HelloSunshine100]

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feeling so confused single parent 39 years old DD 9 years old. Not been in a relationship for nearly 10 years. No dating no love life basically nothing to do with the opposite sex
There is this something that I feel is amiss but I can’t identify it. I feel completely indifferent to having a relationship with someone new and am not motivated to seek this out or try dating apps. Majority of past experiences has not gone well and in all honesty I cannot be bothered . I find dating massively anxiety provoking and don’t want to put myself through it. I have joy in so many other areas of my life. But the catch is I really want another child. I know I am a good parent and can provide for another child. I don’t know what to do. Seeing others around me growing their families and moving on to having more children is difficult when I so want that as well

It's really common to get broody at that age; your body is basically telling you it's last chance saloon.

Whether or not you should act on it is another thing; I'd want to be reasonably sure it was an actual fixed thing and not just hormones. (Though, am 41, single, and pregnant, and I'm very happy to be so. My DD is 8, so similar to your DC.)

Thanks for replying. Do you mind me asking do you have a partner? This may sound very blunt and weird so please don’t reply if you don’t want to but how did you become pregnant again?

No - like I say, I'm single. It's not weird to ask in the context of your thread, either! I did IVF with donor sperm, but I'm gay so that wasn't particularly a huge departure.

Thank you! Did you use donor sperm for your first child?
I don’t think this is a fleeting phase or hormonal. Have been wanting another child for last few years

Yes, though she's my ex-partner's biological daughter, so I was in a relationship when I had her. Part of the reason I split up with my ex was that I really wanted another baby and she didn't.

I'm absolutely delighted to be pregnant now; it's lovely. You could spin through all sorts of downsides and worries and it's sensible to think about them, but I have to say I feel really happy about it. I think it's a good age gap, too - I can't imagine being single with two tiny ones (though obviously people manage it).

Can you have another one with dd's dad? On the basis that you'd be a single parent but theyd have the same dad?

Or use a donor?

I sometimes get the urge (34) but would use a donor if I did x

If it’s something you really want could you look into a sperm donor?

Yanbu. Your hormones don't stop just because you are single, and wanting a last baby before you reach menopause is completely normal. Whether it is a good thing for any baby is a separate question.

I had a baby at 45, not planned , with a partner, and the relationship failed. Ds is wonderful.

Ds, now 17, is happy, healthy, positive, confident. I've made sure he hasn't suffered from having a not-very-involved dad. I wish he had a sibling.

If you have the energy and resources to raise a second, go for it.

I'm 39, would love.anoyher child, would be 3rd for me. I'd like to do it where I feel.safr and happy while pregnant and not having to deal with a manchild/abusive man. However I am financially not in the place to do it. But if you are then go for it, get a sperm donor. Don't have regrets, enjoy being a mum and live yiur life the way you want it.