Roll up, roll up for your Christmas rants! This is a non-judgmental safe space where you can say what you want about what went down over Christmas

[DontFallInTheHaHa]

Now the proper Christmas/visitors season is over it’s Moaning Time.

Ill start.

To DH’s family: why must you all behave like it’s your first day on planet earth? It’s not endearing to be perpetually late, unprepared and disorganised. I don’t enjoy driving 2 hours to be stood outside in the freezing cold because you popped to Tesco and forgot the time we were arriving. And if you say “What am I like!” Again, I WILL answer with “An annoying twat”

To 12yo DD: I know you’re hormonal and life is tough as a preteen in 2025. But you do not have “nothing to wear”. I bought lots of outfits - that you picked BTW - as part of your presents. Put them on and STFU before I give you another lecture about being parented in the 80’s

My brother was the golden child throughout our childhood and this Christmas it all came back. First one he’s been at for 10 years as he lives abroad but my god mum worships him. “Oh son, thank you sooo much for all your help washing the baking trays and glasses” WTF? He put one glass in the sink and handed me a baking tray. I washed them! Me! Repeat similar incidents where db got credit for things either I had done or my lovely dh.

I might suggest parents go to db next year and dh and I book somewhere hot to fuck off to where I don’t come home remembering I’ll never be good enough. It’s like my 43yo self has gone back to my late teens and I now need therapy after 4 days with my family.

@TeenLifeMum god that sounds horrendous. Definitely go away next year

Last year was so awful for me, I totally changed how this year went. It was the antithesis of previous years, so I want everyone to know, it’s ok to say no and change the plan or the tradition.

I sent DH and two nearly adult children to his parents, as there are cousins etc of similar ages etc. So, no moaning about boredom and ‘fancy’ food this year.
I went to my Mum, with sis and BIL (they have no kids) so dinner was delicious, slow no rushing to next course, music on in background, conversation was lovely and lots of help/effort to clean up etc.
Chose to stay home last night when D(?)H went to his brother for annual poker night. Bored me senseless every year so, I stayed home had along luxurious shower, used new products, put on new and freshly washed pjs and watched a movie. It was bliss…I aim to suit myself more every year. Life is too short to be miserable and ‘they’ will grumble about you if you go or if you don’t , so you do you.

My dad and his dp decided to invite some elderly friends with health issues. Nice thing to do but they didn't tell us. The woman is immuno compromised ...if dd hadn't mentionedbit, it could have been serioys. A week before dd said she heardcthe couple were coming over. Good job id got enough pudding.
On Xmas morning the woman announded her dh passes out when he eats too much food. Obviously he did and we left him in the hall on the floor during tthe King's speech. He then announced he needed a wee...dad had to get him a bottle. I mean he was fine but our poor teen dds were a bit stressed.

For me it's the lack of communication from my dad that gets to me.

I went NC with one of my brothers. It's been coming for a long time and I've finally had enough of the entitled bully.

I have an elderly parent to stay. It has been tiresome to say the least.
Was going to return them to another family member yesterday when they threw a curve ball and said they didn't want her back yet.
So I am now stuck with her right up until I go back to work.
Christmas has been anything but restful.

My dh and dd's have been great when they have every right to be pissed at her sloth like behaviour.

A shout out to my DDs’ father who once again failed to send them even a card. Nice that he replied to their Xmas text messages, asking if they had a nice day. Yes, they did asshole, as they have every year, no thanks to you. Would it be too much to put a tenner in a card once a year? It’s not like you send them anything on their birthdays either… maybe set aside a few quid from your booze budget.
Thanks to HMRC for finally forcing his employer to directly pay to CMS though. First maintenance in years paid in Dec! Merry Christmas!

I feel like I could write a miniature essay here, but will stick to my #1 rant: To my 'D'SiL who I've had to go no contact with - No contact does not mean choosing to send me a Christmas present when DH had already asked you explicitly not to. You have no clue how distressing and embarrassing it was for me to be expected to receive it in front of your parents on Christmas Day, nor do I suspect you care. Disrespecting my boundaries is not being kind and I see exactly what you are trying to do. Please fuck off, and leave me alone! It's really not hard!

To our family member who cancelled for their family of 4 on xmas day with a flimsy excuse when we had prepped for hours. Your behaviour is not okay and I see you for who you really are now.

I’ve spent this entire year going through tests for a serious rare illness, still not resolved, more tests in January. My sister and mum who spent the past few years dumping all their problems on me, getting a ton of support, ignored me all year. I didn’t get one “how are you” from either of them. They knew I was going through this because I told them at the start of the year. This is pretty standard behaviour for them but I decided enough is enough.

So to my sister, no your generic merry Christmas card does not make up for ignoring me all year, and to my mum, ditto to your merry Christmas text message. You can both fuck off.

Thankfully I have my wonderful adult DC, who I spent a lovely Christmas with and my relatives abroad who actually do care enough to ask me how I am!

DH and i had a massive row on the 27th, because i let the kids have too much xmas choc in one go leading to them getting too 'hyped up'.
He can be a bit of a tyrant when it comes to sugar but i am more relaxed especially at this time of year.
its something we struggle to see eye to eye about!

A big shout out to my 38yr old sister who for the 39th Christmas running didn’t lift a finger, think of anyone else, provide anything practical towards the running of the Yuletide season or consider that maybe she isn’t Queen of the World. As ever it was charming and I find it just as endearing as our parents do. Sorry, no I don’t, you’re a dick.

I missed out on seeing their little faces open their gifts and gave them to take home because I knew you’d spoil it, the way you do anything that concerns me.

DB (33): Why oh why did you leave poor Mum to cook the entire Christmas dinner (with me trying to help alongside caring for a 3 month old baby)? While all you did was occasionally swan down from your filthy video games lair of a bedroom to make coffee or smoke weed down the shed? And then have the audacity to comment on how less prep seemed to have been done this year? Even our 95 year old grandma was helping peel sprouts!

On top of this, our DM is currently buying you a house so you can live mortgage free and pay them back at a very generous interest rate! Do you have no sense of gratitude or shame to do one tiny favour to the woman who has given you so much?

DD (75): Thanks for enabling DB’s behaviour by disappearing to smoke weed and play cards with him down the shed, and for asking “So is there pudding?” after mum was clearly exhausted from cooking the Christmas dinner…get your own fucking pudding, you selfish old arse!

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Thank you to you, my exH who after 20+ years (of being divorced from him) can still fuck up our DS's Christmas because you are a narcissist and an utter twat. It must really kill you because you feel that you can't 'compete' for attention over me, his currently terminally ill mum and what is my last Christmas. You had to go and make everything all about you and no, phoning your son 20+ times in one evening is not reasonable actually but you're still the victim here, right??? Well DS has had enough and has been able to see you for who you really are for last few years and now will probably not see you at all now especially seeing as you phoned me and screamed abuse at me because my son has quite rightly blocked you. Merry Christmas - you got everything YOU deserved.

Oh and to my new Sil.....we see what you are doing to my lovely, kind hearted brother. You are an abuser and you are breaking him piece by sad piece. He has done nothing but help you and all you do is drink and scream in his face. Do you realise how ugly you start to look when you're gearing up for a pop at him - we all saw it on Christmas Day and his DC has told me everything that you did to ruin Christmas for everyone in your house after I went home. I won't be here next Christmas but if there's any justice neither will you. Hopefully he will have dumped your arse - bitch!

Oh, and DP - you were overheard telling me that we couldn't go home Christmas night despite me being tired and in pain. Would an apology really have killed you the next day rather than the attempted DARVO/gas lighting you did instead?

Thank you for listening and happy new year fellow MN's xxx

To ds: buying your gifts on 23 rd from amazon so they are all in packs of 3 is unacceptable
To sister: have the decency to thank me for the v expensive and lovely wine I carefully sourced to suit you