Leaving three teens at home for three nights?

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My DH and I have booked a city break, three nights but only two full days.

Our 'kids' will be 18 (two weeks off 19) 16, 14.

I was planning to leave them at home to fend for themselves (and be responsible for the dog). My eldest works weekend days but would be there in the morning and at night. He is a real homebody and would not be out other than work or the supermarket. My other two are pretty self-sufficient and reliable. We'd leave food / money. Family live pretty close by and could nip over if we needed them to, although I wouldn't anticipate them needing any help.

My mum is horrified by this idea.

AIBU?

It’s just the parties that I would worry about. Because I did this to my parents

I think it depends if they will invite mates over. We left ours for a couple of nights age 15 & 17 but they went over to grandparents for a night & don’t like having mates round & so they just stayed in on their own the second night. Can your Mum pop in to check on them?

No, they won't. Or, the youngest might try but my oldest will shut it down firmly. He's quite strict and quite anti-social!

I might ask if he can take the weekend as a holiday so he's in during the day too

The 16 and 18 year old I’d be fine with. I’d find childcare for the 14 year old, I wouldn’t expect my 18 year old to care for them for that length of time.

Sounds fine to me.

I think they'd be fine but I'd probably ask a family member to pop in both days just to check they're all ok. My parents left me at 14/15 with my 19 yr old sister for a week when they went on holiday, we were fine!

I think it’s just the 14 year old that I wouldn’t be sure about. It seems very young to be left. I guess it depends how much they respect their older siblings.

The 14 year old it would be a concern

It depends on the kids but I would have left my kids at those ages with no worries at all. One of my DDs used to babysit overnight at 14.

I'd have no worries with it - you know your children so they are obviously trustworthy and the oldest two are old enough to live on their own anyway 🤷‍♀️

The 14 year old will be fine with their older siblings.

When I was 14 my mother returned to her place of birth for a month to look after her ailing mother. My sister was 8 and my brothers were 16 and 19 and working. I made sure my sister and I were clean and fed, and my brothers (who were only at home to sleep) ate at work or bought takeaways. We were absolutely fine so a few nights shouldn’t be an issue

I absolutely could not leave my 15yr old, he's a bright, sociable lad, he's not a tearaway but would almost certainly have a 'gaff' and my house wouldn't be in one piece at the end of it.

But you know know your children, I do think 14 is not young but then the older siblings will be there...

Depends on the nature of 14 and 16 year olds

Not fair to make 19 year old responsible for them imo