How do I get my husband and son to be more polite with farting?

[ConfusedCarly]

They never seem to be bothered in public if they let it rip really loud and if it smells. Today I was with my family in TK max and me and my 2 daughters had to walk away from them. We all was so embarrassed and my son and husband didn’t seem to care. They both went out on a boys night last month and ever since they have been so impolite. They don’t even say excuse me OR try to hold it in. They are starting to take it too far and it smells.
I swear i saw the other customers looking at us like we were peasants.
My daughters have lost so much respect for them as they don’t want to do anything with them now.
How do I tell them to stop being so disgusting?

Could you tell dh that it is putting you off wanting to have sex with him? It genuinely would me and rhat might give him an incentive to stop!

What have you said to them so far?

How old is your son?

They can go outside to do it perhaps?

Its not good to hold it in, but there’s a way to make it less pleasant for everyone else!

So blackmail?
That seems pretty toxic

No it would be true in my case! I

Fair enough if not in yours.

God my ex husband used to do this, and belching loudly, it was fucking disgusting and if I ever complained he'd kick off at me. I've noticed now that my boys have started doing it when they come back from his house, I just consistently tell them it's rude and that if you must pass gas then do it quietly and say excuse me.

No real advice sorry OP. Some men are gross.

My son is 14 nearly 15 but me and my daughters have told them how disgusting it is and they think of it as a joke

I might just make them live in the shed 🤣

I remember having a brief boyfriend when I was younger who seemed to deliberately fart as loud and theatrically as possible. The last time I ever saw him we were on a date in a very busy restaurant. He lifted his arse and farted really long and loudly then started laughing as all the other customers were staring and making comments. I got up and walked out and I never saw him again. I do wonder if he’s now married.

I would imagine that your son is being led by your DH on this. I would be telling DH very seriously that he's being vile and he needs to respect you and the girls. How he responds will tell you a lot about how much he respects you. Your son will no doubt follow his father's lead one way or the other.

Thanks I have told him this but he seems to not be bothered and sees it as a joke
He keeps on saying that he can’t control it and says it’s normal for a man

We all fart but we don't use it to humiliate and attack our families. How is your DH in other ways? I don't like the sound of him and I'd be upset that he was training your son to disrespect you and your sisters too.

He is sometimes disgusting but okay
He lacks in manners though only does he have them in public but for the past month no manners at all

He’s probably now the OP’s partner 🤮

Do you have any influence at all over your husband? Any say at all in your household and lives? Or is he Lord and master who does what he wants regardless of your wishes?
Because if you do have influence in other ways, can tell him no, and he listens, then approach this as you would any other unacceptable thing.
If however you have no voice and your views don't matter, leave him.

LTB

Of course it is. How did you not know this? It's well known that men have issues with farting and must break wind wherever and whenever they are. Tell him you will need to change your tampon/towel wherever and whenever it suits you.

Ongoing bain of marriage, this. I do say to my DH when he does it and says he can't help it or all men do it etc: "would you ever do that at work in front of colleagues?" And when he says no I reply "then show me the same respect".