To put DD(2) in nursery on Friday?

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Ugh, really torn on this one.

On the one hand …

I would get to spend time with just her sister (5) which is very rare and so so SO much easier … no buggy or changing bag or having to leave early because of nap, cheaper, the weather looks pretty bad.

On the other hand I feel guilty because I’m off work (don’t go back until Monday) and so could have her. And she doesn’t like nursery much; I know she’d far rather have the day with me and her sister.

Help?

YABU - don’t send her

YANBU - send her

Is there a particular activity / day out you'd like to do with older sister that you cannot do /cannot fully participate in with younger one in tow? If so, yes, I'd do it & make it a special day out.
You can always plan to do a special day with little one when sibling is at school at some point, if that makes you feel less guilty!

I was going to book tickets to an outdoor activity thing. Dd2 would enjoy it but it would be much harder work and we might have to leave sooner because of her nap.

When I saw the title I thought it was going to be every week. For a one off treat for your 5 year old you should definitely do it.

Depends how often shes in nursery usually IMO.

YABU if she is in nursery 5 days a week usually.

YANBU if she usually only goes 3 times a week and the other days you spend time with her.

*edit: Just seen youre putting her in because you want to take DD to an activity, in which case YANBU - the quality time will be nice!

How often do you spend 1-2-1 time with your older daughter? If not often then I would absolutely take her out for the day on her own.

My eldest is 5 years older than dt. On inset days I used to keep dt in nursery and take dc1 out to do something that would be harder /impossible with dt. Dc1 has fond memories of these days, dt don't remember the day they spent in nursery. Id definitely do it.

Spend some time with your eldest, your youngest will be fine it’s only a day.

Virtually never, tbh.

I think I will just have the day with dd1, it’ll be nice and a lot easier!

Definitely put her in for time with the eldest, especially if you often have to cut days short to take her home to nap, I bet your eldest will really enjoy it and if it's a paid day out you'll get your moneys worth

Sent my 2 year old in today to give me time to clean the house and quietly pack some outgrown toys away for donation and catch up on admin faff.

Seems like you've got a lot less to feel guilty about that me!

(She's going on Jan 2nd too...!)

Is he/she only going for 1 day?? Get him/her in there! Spend some time with your 5 year old.

Ask the 5yo what her preference would be. You might be surprised and she'd prefer her sister there. Or if not she'll really appreciate the 1:1 time.