All my historically fat friends have gone thin this year

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Okay maybe not ALL of them, but a few friends/acquaintances who have been very big for years and years, tried everything but could never shift the slightest bit of weight, have all had dramatic transformations and shed many stones over the past year. It’s just becoming expected now whenever I see another formerly large acquaintance or relative pop up on my feed with a super slim selfie.

I (rightly or wrongly) suspect it’s got to be WLIs or similar? Although all are adamant it’s a strict diet only. Just to add there is NOTHING wrong with jabs at all, and I’m aware it’s absolutely none of my business, and I sound mean but I wouldn’t actually discuss this in RL. It just got me thinking that being overweight might be obsolete in a few years?

Anyone else noticing this trend with people they know?

It doesn’t make any difference to me but it comes across like the person is ashamed if they feel they have to hide it. If they’re proud to have lost weight then it shouldn’t matter the method. If they believe it’s not that person’s business, say that. You can say whatever you want, but be aware of how it comes across, especially (like others have said) when it’s very obvious that WLIs have been used. People might not be asking to be ‘rude’, they might be considering using them themselves and want advice.

ETA: It’s been a thing for years that people ask how someone done it after losing weight. They ask for tips, diet advice, exercises they used etc. Why is that ok but it’s not ok to ask if they used injections?

Why get so offended then when people ask if you took it?

It's a bit strange that some on here are pooh-poohing the old fashioned weight loss strategies while lying that that is how they lost their weight.

But the food noise, so picking at your favourite foods just for the sake of it, is one of the major things the jabs stop. I couldnt care less if people try the jabs or not but it just seems so bizarre to not try them in case they dont work. I thought the same myself as just thought there is no possible way it will work for me. The reality was that within hours of the lowest dose I had full appetite suppression and no longer think about food at all. Food was constantly on my mind, and I binged often.

I only know a few people on the jabs and they look fantastic, they are eating clean and exercising, same as i am. That is the whole point in the jabs that you should be eating so much better with the correct nutrition etc (encouraged hugely by providers).

Because they didn't take it. Nobody likes to be made out to be a liar. It's frustrating.

Exactly my point…

I haven’t lied about anything. You know nothing about me.

If you had said I - then gave would work. But you said I’ve - so no….
"I've gave" is grammatically incorrect; the right phrase uses the past participle "given" after "have," making it "I've given" (Present Perfect) or simply "I gave" (Simple Past), depending on whether the action connects to the present or is a completed past event. "Gave" is the simple past tense, while "given" is the past participle needed with helper verbs like "have," "has," or "had".

“I gave” “I’ve given”. You’re welcome.

Simply because I didnt. It's not that difficult.

You know fuck all.

Having been on WLI for 18 months and have never had a healthier diet, nor spent as much time in the gym.

Why are we even using words like ‘proud’ and ashamed’ in relation to weight? Gaining weight isn’t a moral failing. Losing weight is not a moral virtue.
I’m not ashamed that I gained weight, nor proud that I lost it. I am not proud that I lost it without WLI. I’m glad i did it for my own health, that’s all. And if I don’t attribute any of these feelings to my own weight loss, I can’t imagine why other people would attribute them to my weight loss.

@Moro93 I don’t care how it comes across, I simply want people to stop talking to me about it, given that I never raise it. I also don’t owe anyone else advice based on my personal medical circs. I will happily have a general conversation about weight loss and methods, but I’m not discussing my personal experience of that. It’s not relevant and it’s too personal.

I’m also not proud of losing weight. I’m pleased, relieved, happy, satisfied, but pride and shame are not things I think much about.

Especially children's menus. It's shocking. Kids burger and chips is enough for any adult. My 11 yr old Ds loves to eat and is on the tubby side so we need to be careful, he is the oldest he can be to order these menus, yet every time they are considerably bigger than the largest meal he would have at home.

Yes hopefully it will be if you can’t beat them join them! Weight watchers is doing a program to support WLI too. But I think you have to be wary of what food manufacturers claim. It’s often bollox! Home cooked is always safer and better.

My GP was suspicious that I had been using weight loss drugs but I haven't. I have changed my diet. Lost 5 stone in 13 months.

@CremeCarmel there is only one weight loss method underlying all the approaches including WLI, which is to be in a consistent calorie deficit.

The “old fashioned” approaches don’t work for long term weight loss, it’s not pooh-poohing them to recognise that, it’s a fact. Traditional diets are a subject to rebound weight gain as any other approach. Across the population, obesity rates are rising, and all the old fashioned approaches are making no change to that.

Gosh, believe me, I bloody wish the government were relying on medication. Then I wouldn't have to shell out nigh on £300 per month on it myself.

Mind you, I do agree that the lack of statutory oversight of Big Food is scandalous and I hope that, one day, we can look back as a society and see this for what it is - corruption.

It’s interesting psychology- I have a coffee shop and I sell cake. I sell smaller sized cakes than most other coffee shops and I swear it goes in my favour- often people will say to whoever is with them “are you having a cake?” and they say “no, I’m trying to be good” or “I’m not hungry” but then they look at the cake display and say “actually they’re not that big, I could have one of those…”. And those that want a big slice buy two. So I probably sell more cakes than I would if I just sold huge pieces!
(from Thursday I will be pushing the home made veg soup and skinny lattes!)

Yes, lots, all openly saying they're on the jabs. However I also know people who are putting the weight back on having stopped the jabs - several stones off, several stones back on. It's so expensive, it's hard to sustain.

I’m not the Mounjaro marketing board and you’ve found something that works for you and you’re happy with it, and that’s really the hallmark of the ‘best’ weight loss plan - one you can stick with - but…

The injections would work for you. I can almost promise you that. For various reasons, many drugs don’t work for me. Painkillers and anaesthetics most notably - takes a rhino dose of general anaesthetic to knock me out, I can count back from ten and get to one, many local anaesthetics and three epidurals have all failed. Anti-depressants also don’t work for me. Should have put this on the ‘one cool thing’ thread. I have a ridiculously high pain threshold and a ridiculously high tolerance to drugs. But Mounjaro works. And at really low doses. I’ve been on it 7 months and I’m still only on 5mg
and still getting full suppression and no interest in food. Which means I can treat it like fuel.

I stand corrected, did you really have to edit and add all the extra? I should really consider hiring an editor for my comments considering MN is apparently chock full of English professors…
Also, the ‘you’ was meant figuratively so don’t worry, I never claimed to know anything about you.

Because saying 'none of your business' is tantamount to saying yes to the sort of arseholes who ask. And, given the some of the horrible attitudes we've seen on this thread alone, can you honestly blame people for wanting to spare themselves further judgement and criticism when being overweight already brings so much?

I tell anyone who asks because I'm z thick skinned bastard with no filter, and even I have been shocked by some of the condescension, faux concerm and downright vitriol I've received in response. I dont blame people for trying to avoid that.

Quite. I was never ashamed of being fat. I am not proud of losing weight. All this moral judgement is deeply weird and draining.

Yours is the bizarre comment. While obesity is hard on the body and of course can cause lots of health issues, being overweight does not make a person look 'obviously ill'. Whereas people who have lost too much weight can indeed look ill.

What are you on about? Are you talking about people who have lost weight and are now maintaining? Because they are also entitled to take Mounjaro!

Because so many are designed to fail, it’s why I detest weight watchers and slimming world. They’re specifically designed to keep you coming back again and again to take your money.