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All my historically fat friends have gone thin this year

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donttellscotty · 30/12/2025 15:43

Okay maybe not ALL of them, but a few friends/acquaintances who have been very big for years and years, tried everything but could never shift the slightest bit of weight, have all had dramatic transformations and shed many stones over the past year. It’s just becoming expected now whenever I see another formerly large acquaintance or relative pop up on my feed with a super slim selfie.

I (rightly or wrongly) suspect it’s got to be WLIs or similar? Although all are adamant it’s a strict diet only. Just to add there is NOTHING wrong with jabs at all, and I’m aware it’s absolutely none of my business, and I sound mean but I wouldn’t actually discuss this in RL. It just got me thinking that being overweight might be obsolete in a few years?

Anyone else noticing this trend with people they know?

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usedtobeaylis · 30/12/2025 19:09

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 19:08

It isn’t going in because it’s not fact. I’m not denying that WLI are licensed for weight loss but they were developed for the treatment of type 2 diabetes, not weight loss. Weight loss is a side effect that the pharmaceutical companies are cashing in on. The primary target was those with type 2 diabetes to regulate blood sugar. To obtain these drugs simply for weight loss purposes on the NHS, just being overweight in itself is not a qualification. You have to have a BMI of 40+ and at least four specific weight-related conditions like Type 2 Diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, abnormal cholesterol and sleep apnoea and you have to agree to undergo change of lifestyle support.

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It doesn't matter what it was developed for, it matters what it's licenced for. Ozempic isn't licensed for obesity, Mounjaro is. Using it for weight loss is a legitimate, licenced use. You might want to get your own facts straight.

usedtobeaylis · 30/12/2025 19:10

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 19:04

Don't bother. We have tried, repeatedly, to explain this. It isn't going in.

People eh 🙄

Midnights68 · 30/12/2025 19:11

SilenceInside · 30/12/2025 18:07

@SeriaMau the poster said why in her post! It’s no one else’s business. If someone has the temerity to directly ask, I don’t owe them the truth about my personal and private health decisions. And I don’t owe anyone a conversation about it. So, I will not tell them, and I have no compunction whatsoever about that. If other people are upset, angry or judgemental about me not telling them, well that’s their choice.

Fair enough. But it’s interesting though - if you’d lost a lot of weight by taking up marathon running or doing 5:2 or doing Paleo or whatever, I’m going to hazard a guess that you’d probably tell people if they asked.

I just don’t understand the shame about it?! If you’ve lost weight and you feel good then I’m happy for you, however you’ve done it.

Sidebend · 30/12/2025 19:12

5% of the adult population are on them; one in twenty people.
So yes, I agreee with you. I am starting to feel fat and wrinkly compared to my WLI, botoxed friends!

SilenceInside · 30/12/2025 19:12

@Rosscameasdoody why does it matter that Mounjaro was initially developed as a T2 diabetes treatment? Weight loss always one of the intended additional effects, and it has been tested in clinical trials specifically for weight loss. It has been approved for weight loss on its own. Many medications are extended to treat additional conditions, that’s very usual.

If someone in the NHS is telling you that the shortage of medication for your DH is down to treating obesity privately, they are wrong and mistaken about that. NHS supplies are ring fenced, cost is nothing to do with private demand.

GalaxyJam · 30/12/2025 19:12

Midnights68 · 30/12/2025 19:11

Fair enough. But it’s interesting though - if you’d lost a lot of weight by taking up marathon running or doing 5:2 or doing Paleo or whatever, I’m going to hazard a guess that you’d probably tell people if they asked.

I just don’t understand the shame about it?! If you’ve lost weight and you feel good then I’m happy for you, however you’ve done it.

Have you read this thread? And seen the judgement aimed at people who take WLI? That’s why people don’t tell people.

whywherewhat · 30/12/2025 19:13

GalaxyJam · 30/12/2025 15:52

It’s not something I’ve noticed particularly but I’m sure it’ll come. It’s great there’s a way for people to lose the weight who have historically struggled to do so.
On the other hand I lost 3.5 stone last year without WLI and everyone assumes I’m lying 🙄.

How please?

Farmwifefarmlife · 30/12/2025 19:15

i know Loads of people that I’ve suddenly lost loads of weight of course it’s the jabs I don’t understand why they don’t just say? Everyone knows anyway!

BigButtons · 30/12/2025 19:15

I also know people who are already slim using wli and they look gaunt and unwell.

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 19:15

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 19:08

It isn’t going in because it’s not fact. I’m not denying that WLI are licensed for weight loss but they were developed for the treatment of type 2 diabetes, not weight loss. Weight loss is a side effect that the pharmaceutical companies are cashing in on. The primary target was those with type 2 diabetes to regulate blood sugar. To obtain these drugs simply for weight loss purposes on the NHS, just being overweight in itself is not a qualification. You have to have a BMI of 40+ and at least four specific weight-related conditions like Type 2 Diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, abnormal cholesterol and sleep apnoea and you have to agree to undergo change of lifestyle support.

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You are side stepping the point that I, and several others, have made.

I am perfectly prepared to accept that Mounjaro was developed for diabetes- you say that and im sure a quick Google would prove you right. However, I don't feel the need to check as I have no reason to doubt you.

The point you are not responding to is this: Mounjaro is licenced for weight loss by the MHRA. This demonstrates that obesity is considered a disease requiring treatment. In the same way that diabetes is a disease requiring treatment. Hence, there is nothing morally wrong in people with obesity seeking prescription of a medication licenced to treat their medical condition and it is unkind and unfair of you to continue to blame such people for denying diabetics the right to the treatment that the MHRA seem suitable for their medical conditions.

23Shadows · 30/12/2025 19:16

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 18:56

This. My DH has been put back on his original type 2 drugs. After four months on Mounjaro it’s getting progressively more difficult to obtain because of price increases due to its popularity as a weight loss drug. This is first hand experience. It wasn’t developed for weight loss, it was designed to control blood glucose in type 2 diabetes and in many cases reverses it, vastly improving the lives of those affected. The fact that some posters think it’s OK to deny it for genuine medical reasons so that it can be accessed privately for weight loss is breathtaking.

Obesity is a "genuine medical reason" for using Mounjaro. It's licenced for weight loss. Give it a rest will you.

FlugelHugel · 30/12/2025 19:16

I've lost 3.5 stones this year and not with WLIs. It's been diet and strength training for me but it's taken a whole year and I've stuck to it faithfully all year after I finally got sick of my shit by the end of 2024. Other people I know who've lost weight over the year are mixed - some WLIs, some diet and exercise.

Maybe the introduction of WLIs has given people a kick up the arse. For my self I was keen to not take them but if I hadn't been able to make a difference to my weight without them this year, I would've been open to giving them a try.

CremeCarmel · 30/12/2025 19:17

It is going to be so interesting to see how this revolution will play out in the coming years. I heard today that M&S have developed a range of meals for people on the jabs who don’t want to eat much. They are smaller portions with all the nutrients that the jabbers might otherwise miss out on. I am Hoping this kind of thing will be of benefit to those of us not on jabs because the food industry makes it so difficult to lose weight.

if all the morbidly obese people stop eating food companies are going to lose a lot of business.

I wonder what the government would do if all the confectioners, fast food takeaways and bakeries went bust?

GalaxyJam · 30/12/2025 19:17

whywherewhat · 30/12/2025 19:13

How please?

Massively cut down on sugar intake. Concentrated on protein plus fruit and veg. The resulting lack of blood sugar spikes made it easier to avoid snacking.
I also got a puppy (not a method I’d really recommend 😁) and spent a lot of time walking. Focussed on being generally more active.
Oh and ditched booze!

SilenceInside · 30/12/2025 19:18

@Midnights68 I’m not ashamed, hopefully nothing I’ve said indicated that. If I’d lost the 11st that I have by marathon running, or Paleo then I might mention it if someone asked because neither of those things are a personal medical or health decisions. I did C25K alongside and will talk about that, again because it isn’t a medical thing. And people that know me, know that I’m running when I haven’t done so for years.

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 19:18

SilenceInside · 30/12/2025 19:12

@Rosscameasdoody why does it matter that Mounjaro was initially developed as a T2 diabetes treatment? Weight loss always one of the intended additional effects, and it has been tested in clinical trials specifically for weight loss. It has been approved for weight loss on its own. Many medications are extended to treat additional conditions, that’s very usual.

If someone in the NHS is telling you that the shortage of medication for your DH is down to treating obesity privately, they are wrong and mistaken about that. NHS supplies are ring fenced, cost is nothing to do with private demand.

So my DH’s diabetic consultant is wrong ? We were advised that the price of Mounjaro has doubled in recent months and the fact that people are buying up supplies has fed into NHS provision. This was confirmed by the pharmacy supplying his Mounjaro - they are having difficulty sourcing it and supply varies according to area.

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 19:21

23Shadows · 30/12/2025 19:16

Obesity is a "genuine medical reason" for using Mounjaro. It's licenced for weight loss. Give it a rest will you.

I’d agree with you if the people I know were taking it because they are genuinely obese. They’re not.

Averynicelady · 30/12/2025 19:22

yophoriac25 · 30/12/2025 16:42

You mist generally have quite wealthy friends. Most overweight people do not have a spare £125-£250pm (depending on dose) and if they did, wouldn't spend it on WLIs because they would place a higher priority on a family lifestyle that includes eg fully functional household appliances & every day technology, an annual holiday, or a sufficiently comfortable and spacious home to live in. The cost of WLIs represents an entire step or two up the ladder of value in family lifestyle.

Meanwhile the criteria for getting them on NHS are so high that barely 1% of those who would benefit from them can get them withoit being wealthy. Maybe 5% of those who need them are fortunate enough to be able to able to afford them without depriving their family of the benefits of better potential uses of the money, and maybe 5% of those who need them go ahead and spend the money choosing to depriving their family of the benefits of better potential uses of the money. The rest of the users don't actually need them and are using them to get down from a healthy enough size 14 to a too-thin-by-far level by lying to the online suppliers to obtain meds they shouldn't be having.

Obesity won't die out at all, but it will become more socially stigma'ed as it will be an easy way to mark someone out as "not belonging" if they are trying to fit in/emulate/aspire to a more prosperous social bracket than they can actually afford.

People who can afford them and think they aren't wealthy are deluding themselves as to how privileged they are.

Are you always this judgemental about the ways in which people choose to spend their money?

GalaxyJam · 30/12/2025 19:24

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 19:21

I’d agree with you if the people I know were taking it because they are genuinely obese. They’re not.

How do you know their BMI?
I lost weight without WLI but people would have said that I wasn’t obese at a size 12-14. I was, my BMI was 31.

GladFatball · 30/12/2025 19:24

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 19:21

I’d agree with you if the people I know were taking it because they are genuinely obese. They’re not.

Well, luckily, the WHO and the MHRA appear to have based their definition of obesity as a disease on a larger sample than 'some people you know'.

For what it's worth, I had a BMI of 43 when I started Mounjaro. If we are going for anecdotal evidence, I do not know a single person in real life on Mounjaro who didn't start with an obese BMI. Some people clearly obtain it fraudulently. But they are a drop in the ocean of genuinely obese people so desperate to improve their health abd lives that they are prepared pay close on £300 per month to do so.

HowDoYouSolveAProblemLikeMyRear · 30/12/2025 19:25

TipTopHat · 30/12/2025 15:56

Ive lost almost 7 stone in the past year, keep getting asked if I have used WLI's which I havent, people definitely assume that's the case which is quite frustrating when i have worked my socks off on increasing exercise and stopping awful habits!

Wow congratulations!

23Shadows · 30/12/2025 19:25

Rosscameasdoody · 30/12/2025 19:21

I’d agree with you if the people I know were taking it because they are genuinely obese. They’re not.

That may well be the case but that doesn't mean nobody taking it is obese. If people are lying to get a private prescription be annoyed with them, not the genuinely obese people for many of whom this is a life saving (or at least life changing) medication.

Binus · 30/12/2025 19:26

Anecdote is not the plural of data. Just leaving that there.

HelenHywater · 30/12/2025 19:26

The people I know on the injections (including thin people) are pretty open about it!

I'm quite envious if I'm honest - would love to lose a few pounds without much effort but am in the healthy BMI category

(that said, the people I know have ALL gone too far, look gaunt and grey and are obsessed with not putting the weight on again, so they keep taking the drugs).

PlateyKatey · 30/12/2025 19:27

Makes me happy that people finally have a workable solution to being obese.
I’m on them, following 40 years of yo-yo misery. MJ makes my body and brain work as they should and I’m hugely grateful for them, for me and for others who’ve suffered!

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