DD is a single mum to three ND children. (The youngest who is 5 years has epilepsy - it happens most nights. )
She mentioned at drop off recently (I do school runs when she's working) that there was a strong earthquake and it had shaken her body clear above/up and down the bed - it was so strong. I told her she was dreaming and she'd insisted she'd been wide awake.
Since then there have been two more episodes which she's recognised as similar to her son's seizures.
She had an urgent appointment with GP yesterday and he said she must surrender her driving licence.
It's her lifeline.
She can't get to work without it. She's out in the car all weekend, taking the DGC out and about, clubs, shopping.
I feel so sorry for her - I can't begin to think how she's feeling.
She became exhausted in the run up to Christmas Day and we think tiredness triggered her episodes - as it does her son's. She has hardly slept since Christmas Eve as she says she's terrified of another 'seizure' as she thinks they only happen when she's asleep - the majority of her son's do. She's in a vicious cycle.
Her job is driving.
She has never had a day off since starting there 4 years ago.
She asked me to take her in this morning, when I arrived at her house at 7.30 everyone was asleep. She'd been awake most of the night again.
We had to rush to get to work (I felt awful for the DGC as she was upset and screaming at them whilst I was frantically trying to get them dressed/organised) - she has since explained her GP appointment to her manager - he said she can go in the warehouse until her further tests are complete.
Longer term - her work is nowhere near a bus route.
She loves driving because it's mainly solitary work (she's autistic) and it suited her to not have much interaction with people.
My life feels like - when one door closes many more slam in your face. I'm devastated for her. I feel like it's all spiralling out of control.
H has had personality change since major op and is becoming intolerable - no idea how long I can last. I see posts about leaving him because of his hateful behaviour and then posts about not leaving when someone is in poor health and it's not their fault.
Both DD have EDS.
Older DD - suspected epilepsy
Younger DD - had to give up work because of her DD's health issues. DGD requires 2/3 weeks in hospital every 10/12 weeks. (I visit every day - a major hospital, 3 hr round trip.)
All 6 DGC are ND - it's all my fault.
CRAP GENES - I've passed on a terrible legacy. (I'm not diagnosed autistic but I definitely am.)
Been trying to count blessings - going into New Year feels so bleak.
It would be nice not to worry.